The hardest part about being a grown up (for me anyway) is taking ownership of all aspects of self-care. Most people don’t want to do most of the things they need to do to stay healthy. I don’t want to floss my teeth or go to bed early or eat (mostly) healthy or go the […]
sitting in discomfort
This is the last time I’m doing this.
Nine years ago I was at my heaviest (non-pregnant) weight ever. I had given birth to five kids in six years, was overwhelmed, had no money, was in a fucked up marriage and was not taking care of myself. Life looked like this: And this: and this: and this: Nine years ago I was 43 […]
Stop Obsessing Over Shit You Can’t Control
Five years ago I had very little control over my brain. Actually, I didn’t really start getting a good grip on my brain until maybe two years ago. I’ve done a tremendous amount of work on managing my mind in the last couple years. I still have work to do, but I no longer lose […]
Choose Your Ending
One of the things that held me back from getting divorced was the thought of leaving or losing my house. I didn’t think I could handle leaving the house, and I didn’t think the kids would be okay with it. If I’m going to be totally honest, I also looked at holding onto the house […]
Making A Deposit In The Bank Of Hard Shit
My ten-year-old went back to school for the first time today after being out of a classroom for just shy of a year and being homeschooled since September 2020. Now that the elementary schools are back full time and the K-8 kids are in school five days a week aaaand we are settled into our […]
Why You Have Trouble Keeping Commitments To Yourself (Part I)
When it comes to making commitments and keeping them, most of us are what Gretchen Rubin would call obligers. We are really good at keeping commitments to other people, but we suck at keeping commitments to ourselves. There are many reasons why it’s more challenging to stay committed to changes we want to make in […]