How I went from feeling perpetually overwhelmed
and neglecting myself to helping thousands of moms
take care of themselves so they can not
just survive motherhood, but enjoy it.
Our life is not usually as pretty as this picture.
Almost never, really.
And that’s why I started this blog in 2012.
Because being a mom can be really fucking hard, and because there aren’t a whole lot of people out there being honest and realistic about what motherhood is like.
So when our youngest was about fifteen months old and I was in the thick of it, I resolved to create a place where moms (and dads) could come when they were feeling alone or overwhelmed or like they were failing or when they just need a break.
And I decided to write about the stuff that most people don’t want to talk about. The stuff that most people don’t want to admit. The stuff that people are thinking but are too afraid to say out loud.
You know, the stuff most people wouldn’t dare post on Instagram or Facebook.
When I first started writing, five of my kids were under seven years old and I pretty much just told stories.
As you can imagine, I wrote about a lot of disasters.
The infamous powdered sugar incident of 2012.
I wrote about the meltdowns
I wrote about the messes.
I wrote about the boxes (and boxes) of feminine products the kids went through.
Because if you can’t laugh at the shit that happens once you become a parent, well…
Then you’re fucked.
If the word fuck bothers you, this is probably not the right place for you.
If you are looking to judge, please go somewhere else.
If you are looking for perfection, um, I can give you The Pioneer Woman’s website.
She’s pretty perfect.
Us? Nah, what fun is that?
As life changes and evolves, so has Not Your Average Mom.
Five years later, there aren’t as many powdered sugar incidents, and almost all the kids now know what “those things that look like little diapers” are actually for.
My goal now is to do more than tell stories and share experiences. I still tell stories, sure.
But I also share what I’ve learned that works and what doesn’t work when it comes to parenting. I share my successes and my failures. I encourage parents to think outside the box. I encourage moms to not give a flying fuck what other people think, and to do what they need to in order to take care of themselves, their children, and their families.
Being a mom is never going to be easy. You don’t have to have seven kids to know that.
My mission here is to make momming easy-er.
To enjoy those highs, and to more easily navigate the lows.
Because if we’re going to be on this roller coaster, we might as well have as much fun as we can while we’re on the ride.