Yesterday was one of the most emotional days of my life. So much crying. So much discomfort. I sat in my car in the ShopRite parking lot last night and sobbed for about 30 minutes. It sucked. I don’t like crying. And I do it all the time. I have always been a crier. Just about […]
divorce
What I Learned When The Kids Were Gone For Two Weeks
The kids spent the first two weeks of August with their father. This is the longest time we’ve ever spent apart (except for Ingrd who goes to school about 5 hours from home). I knew I needed to file for divorce for a long, long time. For many years. What kept me from pulling the […]
Two Weeks Without The Kids
The kids are spending the next two weeks with their father. This is an opportunity I dreamed about when I was married and in the thick of it with the kids. Two weeks alone and able to do whatever I wanted whenever I wanted? YES PLEASE. And now, here we are. I’m used to Ingrid […]
This Is What I Decided To Do
The kids are with their father this weekend. This is the stuff I didn’t think I’d be able to handle pre-divorce. It’s why I stayed in an unhealthy marriage for so long. Because I didn’t think I could survive being away from them for even a couple hours, let alone a whole weekend. I was […]
Divorce 101: What you REALLY need to know.
When I filed for divorce I was pretty clueless. And I was focused on all the wrong things. I wasted so much time and energy on stuff that didn’t matter at all. So I’m going to share what I wish I had done differently so you don’t waste as much time and energy as I […]
Finding Myself Again
I finalized my divorce in December 2020, and I moved into a new place in February 2021. I was married for sixteen years. In that time I became a step mom to two step sons, gave birth to five kids, and completely lost track of who I was. The decision to leave my house […]