I’m going to bed with a clean kitchen for the 28th day in a row tonight. 4 weeks. That might not sound like a big deal, but for me, it’s huge. I have never EVER done this. NEVERRRRRRRRRRRRR. My default brain setting is “do it later.” It’s not because I’m a lazy person. I’ve run […]
Mental Health
99 Days
I quit drinking on July 3, 2017. Over eight years ago. But I haven’t been totally sober since then. Over the last five years I started smoking weed on and off. In the last two years the off parts started getting shorter and the on parts started getting longer. I have a hard time with […]
Authenticity is Wellness
For most of my life I have relied on external validation to feel good about myself. I fruitlessly chased perfection in pursuit of long-lasting fulfillment for five decades. I relentlessly compared myself to other people, and rather than helping me experience growth and gratification, the only thing this did was make me feel like nothing […]
Consistency makes progress. Intensity makes a good story.
If your default mode of thinking, doing, and being is all-or-nothing, THIS IS FOR YOU! Black and white, all or nothing, perfectionistic thinking is a big obstacle for so many of us when we are trying to do just about anything. We jump into challenges like 75 Hard where the only thing that counts in […]
This is What Determines Your Results
Your actions don’t determine your results. Every day you are presented with circumstances that you can’t control. The weather, your boss, traffic, your spouse, the practice your swim coach came up with, the wait at the doctor’s office, the person in front of you in line at the grocery store, your washing machine breaking, your […]
You’re Supposed To Be Having Fun, Too
I used to do a lot of fun stuff. Then I got married and had kids and almost everything I loved doing came to a screeching halt as I prioritized everyone else and what they wanted to do over just about anything I wanted to do. Twenty years, five kids, and one divorce later, this […]