I’m working on a book. Maybe. Here’s the first chapter. I got kind of drunk at our wedding. I don’t know if I could tell you the exact reason why. It was probably a combination of a few things. September 18, 2004 was our wedding day, and it was also my 35th birthday. Hurricane Ivan […]
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True Love
My parents have been married for 54 years. They were in the same kindergarten class, they started dating when they were 14, and they got married when my mom was 19 and my dad was 20. They were best friends in 1960, and they are best friends now. About two weeks ago, my mom was […]
Guideposts
A few days ago I wrote a series of posts about my marriage. (You can read those here, here and here). This has prompted me to do a lot of thinking and soul searching in the last few days. And now rather than being angry and resentful and hurt and fearful, I feel open. Because […]
The Not Your Average Marriage Miniseries. Part III: The Finale
On Tuesday night I shared how my marriage is really messed up, how I was feeling completely hopeless, and what happened to completely change my perspective. On Wednesday night I shared how I did something different, and how for the first time in many, many, many months, my husband and I finally had a good […]
Hope, Mercy, And The Power Of Forgiveness
My marriage is really fucked up. It is unhealthy and troubled, and it has been that way for a long, long time. My husband and I go through varying levels of dysfunction, and the past few months have been at like Level 10 Fuckupedness. There hasn’t been any infidelity. There is no addiction. Just an […]
An Inside Job
Three months ago I committed to the daily practice of gratitude. At first, it did not feel normal. It was forced. It felt fake. But that saying Fake it til you make it is a saying for a reason, I guess. This daily gratitude practice isn’t a big time commitment. It takes maybe a minute or […]