What do yoga classes, running buddies, book clubs, 12-step programs, study groups, social media, and therapists all have in common? They provide accountability. And if you are like the majority of people on this planet, you operate better when you have some form of external accountability. Accountability doesn’t mean pressure. It means support. It means […]
Self Care
The Sneaky Trick That Makes Habits Stick
Between work, kids, laundry, and 250 new emails a day, it can feel impossible to find time for anything new, especially the new habits we can’t seem to make happen – drinking more water, stretching, strength training, organization, wathever. But there’s a way to make new habits feel doable – even on your craziest, busiest […]
Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable
It’s human nature to do whatever you can to stay comfortable and safe. Our brains preserve energy and avoid discomfort at all costs. The caveman part of our brain has not evolved as quickly as modern society has. It doesn’t know we don’t have to forage for food or search for shelter anymore, so discomfort […]
Did You Do It Today?
It doesn’t take 21 days to develop a new habit. That’s misinformation that spun from a plastic surgeon’s observations. Maxwell Maltz was a plastic surgeon and a writer. In 1960 he published Psycho-Cybernetics, which is still regarded as a classic self-help book. Maltz noticed with his plastic surgery patients that it took about 21 days […]
Can’t vs Won’t
Very often we don’t make changes because we tell ourselves we can’t do something. I can’t exercise because I don’t have time. I can’t quit my job because I need the health insurance. I can’t lose weight because my husband insists on keeping junk food in the house. I can’t go to bed earlier because I need time to unwind at night. In reality, these […]
You’re Supposed To Be Having Fun, Too
I used to do a lot of fun stuff. Then I got married and had kids and almost everything I loved doing came to a screeching halt as I prioritized everyone else and what they wanted to do over just about anything I wanted to do. Twenty years, five kids, and one divorce later, this […]