I recently listened to an episode of The Rich Roll Podcast with Jim Murphy. The whole episode is so good, but there is one thing in particular Jim said that I have thought about every day, multiple times a day since hearing it. The idea was this: We don’t know what’s best for us outcome-wise. We […]
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Starting the College Swim Recruiting Process Late? Here’s Why It’s Not Too Late
Three years ago, I was less than two years into my divorce, navigating life as a single mom, and struggling just to survive. Kristofer was a senior in high school. He wanted to swim in college. When he started his senior year, we hadn’t started the college swim recruiting process and we hadn’t visited any […]
Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable
It’s human nature to do whatever you can to stay comfortable and safe. Our brains preserve energy and avoid discomfort at all costs. The caveman part of our brain has not evolved as quickly as modern society has. It doesn’t know we don’t have to forage for food or search for shelter anymore, so discomfort […]
Can’t vs Won’t
Very often we don’t make changes because we tell ourselves we can’t do something. I can’t exercise because I don’t have time. I can’t quit my job because I need the health insurance. I can’t lose weight because my husband insists on keeping junk food in the house. I can’t go to bed earlier because I need time to unwind at night. In reality, these […]
I Won’t Miss This
Just about every time I share any parenting-related frustration online, I receive some form of this comment: You’ll miss this stage one day. There may be some validity to this statement. In those cases, only time will tell. But most of the time, I disagree. My kids are 13, 14, 15, 18, and 19. I […]
Writing A New Story
I went to the beach on Sunday. It was 88° and the perfect day for it here in Connecticut. Two years ago I never would have done this. Because while I was at the beach, three of my kids were swimming in a swim meet. And due to Covid there were no spectators allowed. The […]