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What If What You Want Isn’t What You Need (Yet)?

December 21, 2025 by not your average mom Leave a Comment

I recently listened to an episode of The Rich Roll Podcast with Jim Murphy. The whole episode is so good, but there is one thing in particular Jim said that I have thought about every day, multiple times a day since hearing it. The idea was this: We don’t know what’s best for us outcome-wise. We […]

Filed Under: Swimming Tagged With: focus on growth, focus on the process, growth mindset, let go, letting go, swimming

Starting the College Swim Recruiting Process Late? Here’s Why It’s Not Too Late

October 18, 2025 by not your average mom Leave a Comment

Three years ago, I was less than two years into my divorce, navigating life as a single mom, and struggling just to survive. Kristofer was a senior in high school. He wanted to swim in college. When he started his senior year, we hadn’t started the college swim recruiting process and we hadn’t visited any […]

Filed Under: Swimming Tagged With: college swim recruiting, growth mindset, high school swimmers, NCAA swim recruiting, overcoming overwhelm, parenting teens, recruiting tips for swimmers, single mom life, single moms, swim parents recruiting tips, swim recruiting process

It Starts At The Top

September 29, 2025 by not your average mom Leave a Comment

Today’s swim practice did not go the way I wanted it to. The girls were off, and the energy was off. I was super frustrated, and I launched into lecture mode. I know better than anyone that lecture mode rarely accomplishes anything. Anything positive, anyway. I came to swim practice today with bad energy. And […]

Filed Under: Swimming Tagged With: effective coaching, leading by example., ownership

Everyone Gets Their Own Box

September 28, 2025 by not your average mom Leave a Comment

I don’t buy much processed food anymore; fueling the kids with healthy options is a priority for me. But now that they are all in high school and often going from morning practice to school and back to practice right after school, I want them to have some stuff that’s easy to keep in their […]

Filed Under: Lessons I've Learned, Swimming Tagged With: fueling swimmers, high school swim, swim bag snacks

Swim Parents Should Expect a Return on Their Investment

September 10, 2025 by not your average mom Leave a Comment

Competitive swimming is extremely expensive. In Connecticut at the 13&over level, it costs well over $12,000 a year per swimmer. Here is the cost for Gretchen to compete just for the short course season (September to early April): program fee: $2400 team dues: $425 Y membership: $744 required equipment: $97.50 required team suit: $66.25 meet […]

Filed Under: Swimming Tagged With: club swimming, competitive swimming, elite swimmers, return on investment, swim clubs

Make It Easy To Raise The Training Bar

September 9, 2025 by not your average mom Leave a Comment

Long-term development in swimming is my goal as both a parent and swim coach. My objective isn’t to get my own children or the kids I coach to be as fast as possible as soon as possible. A full scholarship at the best possible college program is not the goal. Longevity is. The potential for […]

Filed Under: Swimming Tagged With: competitive swimming, lifelong love of swimming, long term athlete development, longevity in swimming, ltad, raise the bar, swimming

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