So the ladies have been struggling.
They just finished up week 3, and that is typically the time where the novelty and excitement of an exercise routine wears off.
Plus, you are working,
and not seeing much change in your body.
It can be very frustrating and demoralizing.
Last week, a discouraged Samantha sent me this message:
I started your ecourse but it was late and it got confusing so I stopped doing it and just decided to start jogging at nights and watching my diet. I’m already vegetarian so I just started cooking more instead of eating processed. I haven’t weighed myself but I don’t see any changes. And I shouldn’t but I’m comparing to that other girl and she is obviously losing on the short time frame. I’m so frustrated! I’m starting to think of dropping out of the photo thing because it’s embarrassing. It looks as if I’m not trying and I am. But I guess not following your plan has screwed me over… I’m feeling very beaten…
I emailed her the link to my current e-course.
The next day, I got this message:
Hey Susie, how do you know if you’re depressed or just tired of everything?
Sometimes I don’t 🙂
I just don’t know really. Some days are okay and others I’m just down and irritable the entire day. Like extremely irritable. On those days I just want to go away because I feel like my kids would be better off without me. Especially w when I scream at my son. I’ve just been trying to change a lot about myself and I’m tired of all of it. I don’t know. André works a lot, I’m at home a lot. I hoped this exercise thing would boost me but its making me feel worse. But I do feel great after achieving something huge.
Why is the exercise thing making you feel worse?
I feel like I’m getting nowhere. I know it takes time. I just am so sick of feeling down about myself.
I know it’s frustrating. Believe me. But hang in there….
…And Samantha, I’d love to share some of this on next Monday’s post. I think there are SO MANY people out there who feel exactly the same way as you do. I feel like there are a bazillion people who read the blog who can relate exactly to what you are going through.
I think if you put it out there, you might get a surprising amount of support.
…I don’t mind you sharing it at all.
And then, she rallied.
She went out and bought a tape measure.
And THEEEEEEN, she got an elliptical machine off of Craigslist!
That is the stuff that champions are made of.
Sucking it up, and JUST DOING IT.
The hard work can suck.
Not seeing immediate results can suck too.
But you know what sucks more?
Knowing that you quit.
What doesn’t suck is rebooting. Perseverance. Success. Reaching the endpoint. Kicking some ass.
And then, that feeling of success will translate into other areas of your life.
When you push yourself out of your comfort zone physically, you realize you can push yourself mentally too.
Pushing yourself mentally is much harder than the physical thing.
For me anyway.
But a little 5K led to a half marathon which let to a little triathlon which led to a bigger triathlon which led to a marathon.
Now I feel like I can get through anything physical or not.
Like getting my house cleaned up.
Like financially rough times.
Nothing is insurmountable.
Keep it up, Samantha.
Just as Samantha was turning things around, I got this message from Ashton:
I have hit a wall. It’s been a bad week in my life all around. It shouldn’t be an excuse – but it is for me. I’m really struggling with being disciplined about exercise. I am eating 90% better but am still battling exercise. I haven’t even gotten pics this week – terrible I know. This little boy (2 1/2 years old) that my family has known since he was born and have fostered for 14 months is leaving us tomorrow to fly to Tennessee and be dumped off at grandparent’s he’s never met and who have made no attempt to get to know him. Emotionally I am a wreck right now. I know I need to power through but I feel stuck right now – I don’t know WHY I can’t get motivated to work out. This really fucking sucks!!
So two things.
Samantha… if you are reading this….
“That other girl” is not your competition.
She’s your support.
You are each other’s support. You are going through the same stuff.
You have both plastered your pictures all over the blog.
Not many other people know what that feels like.
You can help each other.
Just as people learn differently and at different rates, they lose weight and their bodies change at different rates.
You can’t compare yourself to Ashton.
But you can help her.
She’s feeling the exact same way you were about a week ago.
You can each give each other encouragement.
The more support you both have, the more success you can both have.
And that’s what it’s all about.
You can do this.
You both can do this.
You have each other.
And you have all of us.
And believe me when I tell you there are many, many people out there who are struggling just like you are.
Be an inspiration for those people.
You won’t regret it.
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