I have a challenge for you.
For some of you it may seem like a big one.
I would like to challenge you to get rid of your scale.
Not to just stop weighing yourself.
But to get rid of that mothereffer altogether.
Throw it the fuck out of your house.
Because you know what?
The scale really means nothing.
I mean, unless you want to define yourself and your worth by one number.
A number that more often than not isn’t an accurate reflection of your health.
You could set your goal weight for 129 or 139 or 149 pounds.
You know, to get under whatever that multiple of ten it is you want to reach.
And you might get there.
But the way many of us get there isn’t exactly healthy.
We only drink liquids.
We only eat grapefruit for a week.
Or a month.
We work out obsessively.
We just hardly eat until we get to that fucking number.
Everything is about the number.
Then we get there.
And then what?
We celebrate by eating all the shit we didn’t eat so we could get to that number.
And it takes about two days to no longer be at that number.
And all the while, you are still thinking about that fucking number.
Your life, and your self esteem and your self worth revolves around your number.
You won’t buy yourself any clothes until you get to that number.
You won’t allow any pictures of yourself to be taken until you get to that number.
That number may be causing you to actually miss out on things. Experiences.
But in many, many cases the number hasn’t made you stronger.
It may not have even made you healthier because it may have caused you to lose muscle just so you can say you got to that damn number.
It might have made you obsessive or compulsive.
The quest for it might have made you do dumb and unhealthy things.
I bet it hasn’t improved the quality of your marriage, and I’m pretty sure it hasn’t made your kids listen to you any better.
Instead of the number on the scale, I think there are more important numbers to focus on.
Like how many days a week you get off your butt and move.
And how many meals you eat seated at a table.
How many ounces of water you drink each day.
How many hours of sleep you get each night.
How many times a month you have sex with your spouse.
How many push ups you can do.
How many steps you take each day.
How many times your heart beats every minute.
And the numbers in your blood pressure readings.
Those numbers are important.
Those numbers help you be mindful of what goes into your body.
Those numbers help you be aware of how much intimacy there is in your marriage.
Those numbers help show you how strong and how fit you are.
And when those numbers are all in the healthy range, then you are happy.
Because you feel good physically. And you feel good mentally.
But wait! How will I show everyone how much weight I’ve lost if I don’t have a scale?
How will I quantify my before and after picture?
How will I know how much weight I’ve lost?
How will I show the world how much I’ve changed???
Because it’s not the world that needs to see how much you have changed on the outside.
It’s you who needs to realize that you have changed on the inside.
And the ironic thing is that once those internal changes take place within you, once you shift your focus from an arbitrary number to the other numbers that really matter, those external changes will follow right along.
I have 2 small girls (6 and 4) and when the first was born, I got rid of the scale. And still 6 years later don’t have one! There is enough pressure to grow up “perfect” out there- I didn’t want it in my home. Perfect to me means happy- whatever your definition.