I have a challenge for you.
It will require five minutes of your time every day.
You will have the option of committing more than five minutes, but five minutes is all I am asking for.
If there is an area of your life you are dissatisfied with, the only way to change it is to change what you are doing.
And it is on you to make the change happen.
Not your husband, not your wife, not your kids, not your boss, not your parents, and not your kid’s teacher.
It is on you.
If you want some part of your life to be different, you have to do something differently.
And you have to be consistent about it.
You have to develop a new habit.
When something becomes a habit, that’s when change happens.
Like when you brush and floss your teeth every morning and night, you (probably) don’t get cavities.
When you put your keys in the exact same place every day, you know exactly where they are and don’t ever waste time looking for them.
The easiest way for you to make changes is to develop habits that will stick.
And in order to be successful with developing new habits, the key is making them small and manageable.
Because when they are small and manageable, you are more successful. And when you are more successful, you are more likely to stick with something. And the longer you stick with it, the more permanent it becomes.
So here is the challenge.
I want you to think about something that currently stresses you out or makes you angry or annoys you or just prevents you from having the kind of day you want to have or the level of fitness you want to have or the relationship with your kids or your spouse that you want to have. Or whatever it is that you are dissatisfied with.
Maybe you have all the best intentions of working out every day, but your laundry is always a disaster, and you can never find your workout clothes.
And you spend fifteen minutes trying to find your sports bra, and then you have wasted so much time that the workout isn’t possible.
Maybe your kids bring home papers that need to be signed and you have no system for dealing with that and you are consistently late handing them in or you lose them altogether.
Maybe you are always five minutes late for appointments or your mornings suck because it’s always a sh*t show getting the kids out the door every day for the bus and it’s chaos over and over again.
Whatever the thing is, it doesn’t have to be that way.
And if you can just make one small change, you will eliminate some of the stress/unhappiness the situation is causing you.
And once you get the ball rolling, things often improve exponentially from there.
So my challenge to you is to think of one very small and manageable change you can make that will help you go down a new path.
Maybe you commit to laying out your workout clothes for the next day at night before you go to bed.
Sometimes what happens when you commit to this is that you ultimately get on top of your laundry. You don’t allow it to get completely out of control. You come up with a system that works better for you so you aren’t doing the same thing every single day.
Now not only have you started laying out your workout clothes, but this one little habit has had a domino effect, and now other areas of your life are improving. You are getting more organized in general.
Maybe you start teaching your kids how to make a decent sandwich so they can start helping with packing their lunches and take some of the load off of you. This teaches them responsibility, and the more responsible they become, the less headaches you have.
Maybe you commit to writing down your to-do list for the next day every night before you go to bed, so you start the day off with direction and a plan.
Maybe your car always looks like a family of squirrels has been living in it for the last six months, so you commit to cleaning it out every single day, so you stay on top of things and the next time you give a friend a ride, you aren’t completely mortified.
Think of one small change you can make that will change the course of your life.
I challenge you to do this because once you make one small change, you are much more motivated to make another one.
Once you add a little discipline into your life, it becomes easier to add more.
And these tiny little habits, when they are cumulatively stacked upon each other over the course of weeks and months and days change the direction of your life to get you where you really want to be, whether it’s financially or physcically or emotionally.
In a good way.
I speak from experience.
I am five years into making changes.
Five years. It has been very slow going.
But I am now to the point where I feel able to tackle bigger habits. Ones that might take longer than five minutes. But I do them because the payoff of discipline and doing the thing I don’t particularly feel like doing massively improves the quality of my life.
My newest habit?
Going to bed with a clean kitchen.
My mornings run 5000% more smoothly when I start my day off with a clean kitchen.
And you know what having a lot to clean at night has caused me to do?
It is snowballing into me cleaning up as I go instead.
And now my kitchen just isn’t getting so out of control.
It has taken me a long time to get to the point.
But this was my kitchen last night when I went to bed:
I am just no longer willing to wake up to a complete disaster in this room.
It has taken me a long, long time to get here.
And the kids being a little older has something to do with it.
But so does my commitment to making very small changes, one minute at a time.
A little bit of discipline is giving me a whole lot of freedom.
Freedom from stress and freedom from anxiety.
It’s also giving my kids freedom from a super bitchy mom who is totally stressed out by wasting tons of time due to almost constant disorder.
So who’s in?
Who’s gonna commit to a couple minutes a day?
Let me know what you are going to change.
And we can all improve the quality of our lives together.