We’ve all seen that quote — So that’s just three weeks. Right? Wrong! WRONG! WRONG! WRONG!!! That quote — the one that says it takes 21 days to form a new habit — is actually kind of a misquote. A quote that has mutated. Back in the 1950’s, a plastic surgeon named Maxwell Maltz noticed a […]
Mental Health
Comfort Zones Are For Wimps
I first joined the swim team when I was ten years old. I wasn’t good — at all — but I loved it. By the time I got to high school, I was fairly decent. I was All-State my sophomore, junior, and senior year. I swam at Lehigh all four years. I was one of […]
The Hardest Part of Parenting
You know what the hardest part of being a parent is? It’s not getting through those first couple months after the baby is born. It’s not colic. It’s not the teething stage. It’s not the breastfeeding. It’s not sleep training or potty training. It’s not the terrible twos or the trying threes or the fucking […]
Beauty isn’t only skin deep.
I used to always look younger than my age. And now, at 47, I think things are catching up with me. I’ve got serious crow’s feet. My eyelids are getting heavier. My eyebrows are disappearing (what the hell??? — nobody warned me about that one). The chin and neck hairs are becoming increasingly difficult to […]
We are all the star of our own shit show.
On Thursday I was coaching swim practice and a mom of one of my swimmers who also happens to read the blog came up to me. And she said, “I just want to thank you. Your blog helps so many of us who are struggling.” She gave me a hug. A big, warm, strong hug […]
The ball is rolling.
Yesterday I shared that I’m fairly deep into a case of the Blues. And I just want to thank everyone for sharing your stories and your words of encouragement. You have all made a difference. I thought I’d give you an update and also share a little story. Having been here many times before, and having […]