I don’t really hang out with many people in person any more.
Covid and my divorce have made it especially easy to avoid humans because dealing with humans can be hard and covid made it easy to not deal with people in person and hide.
When I’m tired I don’t want to talk to anyone.
I’m not the person who comes home after a rough day and wants to talk about it.
I’m the person who comes home after a rough day and wants to escape from everyone and not say any words. To anyone.
Being alone has become very comfortable.
When something becomes very comfortable you gotta pay attention.
Because that’s when you are in the danger zone of developing some pretty bad habits that become really hard to undo.
Staying holed up in my house has become a bad habit.
But it’s not really healthy.
While I’d be happy if I never left my house or saw anyone and that’s why I love LIttle House on the Prairie and all those Off the Grid shows on TV, I do have some good friends.
But they are all online friends.
Except for one.
One of my friends is a real in-person friend and the rest are pretty much online friends.
Some of my online friends have been friends for many years, and when I became a Zyia rep, one by one, they decided to join, too.
Now we aren’t just friends… we are also a team.
But we still hadn’t ever met in person.
Until two weeks ago.
Two weeks ago Zyia ran a virtual training called Basecamp, and we decided at the last minute to attend the conference together, virtually.
Six of us were able to make it.
My real, in-life person friend lives really close to me in CT.
The rest of the girls came from New Jersey and New York and Massachussetts and Canada!
I’m not gonna lie.
The idea of meeting everyone sounded good at first and then I was like what if everything is weird in person? What if it’s awkward? What if we can’t be friends in real life and only online?
What if this ruins everything???
I wasted a lot of energy worrying about nothing.
It was like we had been meeting for girls’ weekends forever.
We laughed and laughed and laughed.
It turns out this thing I was scared of was exactly what I needed.
It was perfect.
My friends were able to come to my house and see the rooms they’ve only seen virtually.
My kids were able to meet the person they only ever saw through my computer monitor in the flesh.
It was such a great weekend.
And it was such a great reminder that it doesn’t matter how or where you find your crew.
Your people are out there.
When you find them, support them when you can, lean on them when you need to, and whenever you are lucky enough to get the chance, hang out with them.