Last night my husband and I went to see a new marriage therapist. Or couples counselor. Or whatever you want to call it. We are approaching twelve years of marriage, and this is the fourth therapist we have seen. Our first therapist was a super nice lady. We liked her. But we both liked her […]
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A Familiar — and Frustrating — Scenario
Here is the scenario: Your whole family is supposed to be at a family function at 6:00 p.m. You have to leave at 5:45. Your husband is aware of this. This is not the first family function you’ve attended. You’ve been in this situation dozens of times before. You and your husband both need to take a […]
Two minutes a day might be all it takes to improve your marriage.
It’s been almost two weeks since my tenth anniversary weekend. My best weekend ever. I wish I could say that I have found an effortless way to incorporate everything I learned that weekend into my life now that my husband and I are home and back in the trenches. I haven’t. It’s pretty fucking hard to […]
The Tool Box Conversation
The other day I was talking to a friend who has a daughter in high school. She was telling me how her daughter had a rough year this past year. My friend was telling me how she and her husband got their daughter into therapy, how the therapist explained to them and to their daughter that […]
It’s time to treat the relationship.
I have written about my thoughts on marriage before. You can read them here. If you don’t have time to read that, here are the cliff notes: Marriage is really fucking hard. And that’s when things are going pretty well. You know we are going through a very difficult time financially. That doesn’t make marriage any easier. Throw seven […]
What I learned in therapy this week
There is a lot of stuff swirling around in my head. All the time. It can be a little chaotic in there. Lots of ideas. Which lead to lots of tangents. And sometimes I have a hard time staying focused. Okay. Almost all the time I have a hard time staying focused. Once something pops […]