You know what’s happening in three months and thirteen days? NOT YOUR AVERAGE WEEKEND!!! 15 weeks from tonight you could be taking advantage of this incredible opportunity and hanging out with me and a bunch of other women in the NYAM tribe. Have you and your friends reserved your room yet? If you don’t […]
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Five For One
Here is something quick for you to think about today. My husband and I learned this last week at the therapist’s office: For every stupid/thoughtless/hurtful/mean/shitty/bad thing you do/say to your spouse, it takes five thoughtful/caring/supportive/awesome things to undo and cancel that one dumb thing out. Share this info with your husband/wife/girlfriend/boyfriend/partner. The next time you […]
Nothing Changes When Nothing Changes
I found out a week ago that my husband was let go from his job. I was angry. Really angry. I was angry because there was no warning. I was angry because we were completely unprepared. I was angry because he did nothing wrong and he was a really good employee. I was angry because […]
I need a hug.
Marriage continues to challenge me. Before I go any further, by acknowledging that I still struggle with many aspects of my marriage, I am in no way accepting full responsibility for all of the issues in it. Every time I write a post about my struggles in my marriage, someone inevitably comments with “it’s not all […]
Sexless in Seattle
A while back a woman who referred to herself as Sexless in Seattle wrote to me and asked me a question about sex. Or more specifically, the absence of it in her marriage. She is a mom, has a young kid, has been dealing with depressions and taking antidepressants for a while now, and over the […]
What I learned in therapy yesterday (and 52 things you can do to improve the quality of your marriage)
Last night my husband and I went to see a new marriage therapist. Or couples counselor. Or whatever you want to call it. We are approaching twelve years of marriage, and this is the fourth therapist we have seen. Our first therapist was a super nice lady. We liked her. But we both liked her […]