Here is something quick for you to think about today. My husband and I learned this last week at the therapist’s office: For every stupid/thoughtless/hurtful/mean/shitty/bad thing you do/say to your spouse, it takes five thoughtful/caring/supportive/awesome things to undo and cancel that one dumb thing out. Share this info with your husband/wife/girlfriend/boyfriend/partner. The next time you […]
Perfection Is Unattainable. And Stupid. So Stop Trying To Achieve It.
The other day I was talking with a friend who is a bit of a perfectionist. Actually, she’s a raging perfectionist. She would openly admit this. And we were talking about how life is such a challenge sometimes. I was reminded of this picture I recently saw on a friend’s Facebook page: We went back […]
My parenting idol is an unwed mother who got knocked up when she was sixteen years old.
I’ve discovered why I love Gilmore Girls so much. And I’ll be honest. It took me a little while to get to this point. To the point of loving the show so much that I now feel the need to pace myself and ration episodes because I know I’m gonna be really depressed when I’ve watched […]
2016. The Year of the Wake Up Call.
Carrie Fisher died yesterday. She was only thirteen years older than me. George Michael died two days before that. He was only fifty-three. Fifty-three. He was younger than my husband! Alan Thicke died two weeks ago at 69. Two years younger than my parents. Prince died in April. He was only 57. I could keep going. […]
To All The Moms At Christmas
My aunt always used to say that Christmas is a woman’s holiday. And she’s totally right. Before I go any further, this post isn’t about bashing dads. And I know there are a handful of fathers out there who do help out with shopping and wrapping and whatever. But for the most part, moms around […]
I need a hug.
Marriage continues to challenge me. Before I go any further, by acknowledging that I still struggle with many aspects of my marriage, I am in no way accepting full responsibility for all of the issues in it. Every time I write a post about my struggles in my marriage, someone inevitably comments with “it’s not all […]