So I’m over feeling guilty about taking time for myself.
And going out with my friends.
And getting massages.
And accepting help.
In the past 6 days, I have done all 4 of those things.
I even did one of them twice.
You know what?
The world didn’t end.
My kids didn’t self destruct.
And neither did I.
In fact, quite the opposite happened.
It seems the more open I am to all of that, the more it keeps coming into my life.
Remember how Miss P, Number 4’s bus driver, offered to come help me with my laundry?
Well yesterday she actually came over.
And she said she’s not just here for the laundry.
She’ll help me with anything.
An. Y. Thing.
And I don’t feel guilty.
Instead, I feel hopeful.
I told you how I went to meet my new friends in the city last Saturday.
Well, last night I went out to dinner with an old friend.
Yes, twice in one week I went out with friends.
I haven’t done that since before I was married.
I was feeling kind of guilty about it.
But I’m so glad I went.
She’s a good friend.
And she offered to help me with something on the blog.
Something I’ve wanted to do for a while but haven’t been able to pull off by myself.
And more hope.
And remember the massage?
Well as soon as I set that up, I got a message from a woman who owns a salon in town, and she offered me a free facial.
How cool is that???
See what happens when you get rid of that guilt nonsense?
Some pretty good shit.
Now, I love my kids.
And I love being a stay at home mom.
It’s my choice to do that.
But sometimes it sucks.
And, to be honest, I was starting to resent my kids.
I lost myself.
And neglected myself.
And feeling like I should always put the kids first was not making me a better mom.
It was making me a worse one.
My kids were walking into the room and instead of greeting them with a smile, I was almost annoyed by the sight of them.
But now I have an opportunity to miss them.
Not going out with my friends?
It didn’t make me a better wife.
It made me a bitchier one.
A little change in perspective.
That’s all it took.
And I am benefitting.
My kids are benefitting.
And my husband?
Let’s just say a sizeable deposit was made last night.
Across the board.
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