I grew up in an era when a teacher could still legally spank you.
When it wasn’t uncommon for your ass to meet the business end of a wooden spoon if you got yourself in trouble.
Where, if you were being a slacker at practice, your swim coach wouldn’t think twice about whipping a kickboard at your head.
I’m thankful we no longer live in this age.
Where we know better.
I’m all for building up a kid’s self-esteem.
For pointing out the positive.
But somewhere along the way, something happened.
Instead of evolving, we’ve regressed.
When did we start believing that saying no and holding kids accountable and giving out a consequence is going to harm them?
There comes a time when all the politically correct and kumbaya bullshit just doesn’t cut it.
I don’t know how or when we got to a place where we cannot be honest about something because we are talking about a child.
I love my kids. More than anything.
They are smart and funny and beautiful and talented and a whole bunch of other things.
Including, on occasion, assholes.
I said that word again.
I have published 1,014 posts.
And I searched them today.
271 of those posts contain the word fuck.
That’s about 27%.
So on average, I will use the word fuck about twice a week in a post.
I have also used the words shit, bitch, and motherfucker.
Oh yeah, and let’s not forget asshole.
I obviously like that one, too.
I have a potty mouth.
Sometimes I use it, and sometimes I don’t.
But if you have read more than five of my posts, I can’t see how you’d be surprised by this.
I should have disappointed you a long time ago.
Sometimes I call a spade a spade, and sometimes I call an asshole an asshole.
It’s all semantics, anyway.
Is the word choice really that important?
Or is it a convenient way of avoiding the issue at hand.
The fact that parents not holding their children accountable is becoming an epidemic.
If it only affected the one family unit involved, I’d keep my comments to myself.
But it doesn’t.
That’s why it’s an epidemic.
And kids who have no consequences, boundaries, and follow through from their parents affect all of us.
I feel pretty (fucking) strongly about this because I used to see this therapist who told me that once your kid hits fourteen years old, there is nothing that you can really do to change his or her behavior.
Once they get to fourteen, it’s basically game, set, match.
At that point, there is no behavior modification plan, no sticker chart, no positive reinforcement that you can try to use with your teenager to change his or her behavior.
If you have let your kid be
an asshole (oops, sorry) unaccountable until then, you are basically screwed.
All you can do at that point is be consistent and hope your kid decides to make a change on his or her own.
So don’t get mad at me for my word choice.
Don’t use that as an excuse to avoid the real problem.
Letting your kid get away with anything and everything, making excuses, and pointing fingers, playing the blame game…
As far as I’m concerned, all of those things are much more offensive than somebody calling my kid a jerk or a pain.
Or even an asshole.
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