How many hours — or days — of your life have you spent worrying about something that hasn’t happened yet?
About something that may never happen?
About something that could, possibly, at some point down the road, happen to you or one of your kids?
How many horrible scenarios have you conjured up in your mind that have caused you to lose sleep or even worse, your mind?
I don’t know about men, but I know for sure that women are fucking masters at this shit.
We have the very impressive ability to worry about stuff that hasn’t happened and stuff that may never happen.
It does nothing for us.
This worrying doesn’t help us in the long run.
It doesn’t better prepare us to handle an unknown future situation.
It doesn’t give us answers or change the course of history.
The only thing it does is prevent us from being present and enjoying what we’ve got right now.
After all, tomorrow is not guaranteed for any of us.
I don’t want to be a Debbie Downer, but that’s the truth.
We spend so much time worrying about shit that may never happen and we don’t see or experience what is happening today right in front of our faces.
We miss out on so much.
Worrying is a thief.
Yesterday I was texting a friend, and we were talking about how much our daughters are enjoying a lacrosse clinic they are both in.
And my friend said to me, “I’m just projecting about how this will conflict with her other activities in high school.”
The kid is nine years old.
I was like WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU DOING WORRYING ABOUT SOMETHING THAT MAY OR MAY NOT HAPPEN IN 6 YEARS???
She laughed. So did I.
I’ve done the same thing so many times.
Sometimes you just need to see someone else doing it to be reminded of how pointless worrying is.
So that’s today’s post.
Stop worrying. Stop projecting.
Start participating and enjoying.
Because the only thing you can really guarantee is how you are going to navigate what is happening right now.