In my experience, we are at the point where many people completely fall off the wagon as far as resolutions are concerned.
I’m not a fan of resolutions — because they rarely result in true change — but I am a fan of evolution.
I believe in always trying to be a better mother, a better wife, a better friend, a better business woman, a better runner, a better writer…
a better everything.
But for everyone who has vowed to do things differently in 2019, we are at the point where the majority of people are about to totally fall off the wagon for good until the end of December.
One of the reasons we fall off the path is because we feel like we are depriving ourselves.
We are depriving ourselves of food.
We are depriving ourselves of sugar.
We are depriving ourselves of bingewatching Netflix.
We are depriving ourselves of staying up late.
We are depriving ourselves of alcohol.
We are depriving ourselves of mindlessly scrolling Facebook.
We are depriving ourselves of “down time.”
We are depriving ourselves of lounging around in our pajamas all day on the weekends.
We are depriving ourselves of our phones.
Whatever that new thing is, we so often look at it as deprivation.
I get that change is hard — I REALLY DO — but if you really want to make a change and not be miserable the entire time, you need to look at things differently.
What if rather than looking at it as you are depriving yourself of mindlessly eating garbage on the couch, instead you looked at it as depriving yourself of feeling like total shit the next day?
What if rather than looking at it as depriving yourself of your nightly trip through the McDonald’s drive through you looked at it as depriving yourself of high blood pressure or a raging case of heart burn?
What if you looked at going for a run on Saturday morning not as depriving yourself from relaxing all morning and instead as depriving yourself from being dependent on a wheelchair when you are older?
You are not depriving yourself of staying up late.
You are depriving yourself of being exhausted all day tomorrow.
You are not depriving yourself of sugar.
You are depriving yourself of Type II diabetes in five years.
You are not depriving yourself of “stuff.”
You are depriving yourself of the stress caused by chaos, disorder, and clutter.
You are not depriving yourself of wine.
You are depriving yourself of a hangover tomorrow morning and being a bitchy, impatient, unpresent mother.
Whatever change you are making, you are not missing out on something that is improving the quality of your life.
That’s why you want to change it!
So if you are struggling to stay on the path, it’s time for a paradigm shift.
Change your perspective.
You are depriving yourself from exhaustion, poor health, missing out on countless opportunities with your children, the inability to tap into your strengths, the failure to discover your inner badass, and maybe an early death.
And when you look at it that way, change doesn’t seem that bad — or difficult — at all.