Yesterday I lost it on the kids a little bit.
They deserved it.
But I felt bad about the way I handled the situation later.
And when it comes down to it, their behavior isn’t really their fault.
Because while I know they are capable of behaving better, they aren’t.
And when they aren’t behaving better on a consistent basis and I continue to get angry about it but don’t change the way I am parenting them, the problem doesn’t really lie with them.
I know what I’m doing wrong.
It’s very simple.
I’m not available for them when they get home from school.
That’s all it boils down to.
It’s not that I need to be doing something in particular with them when they get home.
But I need to be available.
I need to be showered and dressed and prepared and organized for practice and dinner before they walk in the door and I need to be physically in the same room and making eye contact after they walk in the door.
I need to be present for them. Not for hours on end.
But I need to be fully accessible when they walk in the door.
And I haven’t been.
So that’s step one.
Only 32 minutes until Number 3 and 4 get home and I still haven’t showered. 🙂
Thanks for this post. I remembered to give my kids a few solitary snuggle minutes once we got home from school rather than expecting them to launch straight into their homework. I think it helped.