I would like to make something clear.
My Stay At Home Mom Challenge post was not a throw down to working moms.
It was not a who-has-it-harder-working-moms-or-stay-at-home-moms kind of thing.
Like I said in the post, it was a throw down to the people who question what I do all day and you assholes who think we stay at home moms are a joke.
I think there are moms who love staying home with their kids who are fortunate enough to be able to do so.
I think there are moms who would love to be able to stay home with their kids but who are forced to work outside the home because they need the money.
I think there are moms who could use the money but who also are also happy to have a job to go to each day.
And then I think there are moms who would go completely fucking batshit crazy if they had to stay home with their kids full time and would never even consider doing that.
I think there are pros and cons to all sides.
I think some people are suited to staying home with their kids and some are not.
I do not judge women who choose to have full time careers or who have to have full time careers.
I do not think stay at home moms are better than anyone else.
I also don’t think there are really any moms who would question how hard it is to be home with your kids 24/7, whether you work in, out, above, or below your house.
But I know there are assholes who believe that stay at home moms have it made.
That it’s easy.
Assholes who can’t fathom why the house would be a mess or why there are days when we fantasize about drinking before noon.
Assholes who believe we stay at home moms don’t pull our own weight.
Assholes named Chuck who are so fucking stupid they’d leave this comment on my blog:
I think all you mommy’s need to get jobs instead of letting your husbands provide for you and wasting your day on blogs! Maybe you should all spend some of your blog time in the gym being I’m sure your a frumpy beat up rag that wishes a man would look in her direction, spend more time bettering yourself and your own life …
Relax working moms.
That challenge wasn’t for you.
It was for Chuck.
But Chuck’s got his head shoved so far up his ass that I’m pretty sure he never read one word of it.
Chuck seems lovely… WTH?
not your average mom says
I don’t think Chuck has to worry about having any wife at all, let alone one who would stay home and wait on his stupid ass.
Not Telling! says
Poor Chuck. 48 and single. Still lives in his mom’s basement and plays with his pee-pee.
Well, he certainly has grammar problems. Good for you for calling him out! Losers like this will never be happy. And IF he has a wife, she’s doing the mailman for sure.
WTF is Chuck doing on this blog?????? Let alone posting a comment.
Claire collins says
Chuck should work on his your/you’re ……
Clearly, Chuck is a troll, seeking a reaction.
John Carter says
Chuck is just cheap hamburger meat. And he smells bad.
Hahaha! Love this! You win the internets for the day!
It’s very saddening to me that this rant has become so popular. I get that it was written in response to someone who made disparaging comments to a stay-at-home mom. But that’s part of the problem here: it’s a rant, written out of anger and the writer feeling like she needs to defend herself and her actions to a complete stranger. Does that stranger define your worth as a mother? If so, you are headed for a ton of anger and rants. In order to make herself feel better, she pitted working moms against SAHM…actually going as far as saying that the life of a working mom is….easy?? I am a working mom of 2 children. My life is anything but easy and I love it. Furthermore, on the weekends I am with my children all day every day, and during those days I am absolutely able to make a phone call, get some housework done, take a shower, etc. You know why? Because I have control over my children, not the other way around. Yes children will be children and that’s what makes them fun. But this dramatization makes your children look like holy terrors…and you look like a mom who has absolutely no control over their actions. Let’s put an end to mom wars and complaining….and thinking our worth as mothers depends on other’s opinions. –
Irene C. says
Chuck clearly doesn’t know how to look at a situation from someone else’s perspective.
You should invite Chuck over for some quality time with the family…I am sure he would have a different response!
Im new to the blogging world but I love reading your blogs. You inspired me.
Oh and Chuck. He’s a rat isn’t he. Ha
WOW…donkey brained Chuck!
If Chuck is married or even spending time with a woman I really feel sorry for her.
Funny how he comments on ‘spending time on a blog’ when he seems to have all the time to read one and post crap on it.
Ummmmmmmmm…I think I know Chuck.
You forgot to mention the moms who are forced to stay home with their kids, because daycare would cost more than their children’s combined worth on the black market. Those mom’s, I believe get the best of both worlds; batshit crazy, and a shoe string budget. If some of us didn’t get to blog about all the crap we endure as mothers, whether we are at-home-moms or working moms, then who else is going to let us know that no mom is perfect, and the mest up thing we did today, like leaving our kid at the grocery store, has happened to many mom’s before us, and it doesn’t mean we failed at motherhood. Oh and Chuck, you just fucking suck.
Brandyn Blaze says
This. So much this. I stay home precisely because the cost of daycare would eat up my entire paycheck, and I refuse to work for nothing and have someone else “raise” my kid in the process. A career will have to wait until we’ve completed our family and they are all in school…unless I hit the blogging lottery that is!!!
Thank you for pointing out that moms like me exist!
Also, yeah. Chuck can go jump off a bridge. The world doesn’t need that kind of negativity.
Thank you for this post. Chuck really is an asshole. Just like most people who don’t understand the reality of staying home with children.
I love this so much. I am in the process of “researching” other mommy blogs in order to start my own. I am your stay at home mom who has gone batshit crazy, as I thought it would be a good idea to try it while the kids are young, and it made sense for financial reasons. It is sooooo, soooo, so hard. Defeating. Maddening. I can keep the kids alive, and that’s about it. All I want to do is sit down and drink a cup of coffee every morning like I used to do when I was lucky enough to enjoy an easy day at work. But that is about 5 years away for me.