In my fitness course, I have a closed Facebook group.
Every day I encourage my badass clients to post in the group.
I don’t have any scientific data, but I would wager a bazillion dollars that the women who post, comment and interact on a consistent basis have more success than the women who rarely or never post.
And I get it.
Some people aren’t Facebook people.
But there are people who are Facebook people who don’t participate at all in the group.
I have been running these groups for over five years, but I realized something for the first time recently from a very brave woman who posted in the group for the first time last week.
I was always under the assumption that the women who don’t ever post or interact in any way with the group just never commit to the course.
It never occurred to me that they might be in the group reading and following along and not posting out of fear.
They fear they will be judged. They fear they will be shamed. They fear they will accidentally post something vulnerable on their personal page and not in the private group.
I know these women aren’t alone in their fears.
I also know these fears aren’t limited to closed Facebook groups.
There are plenty of us who don’t do a lot of things because of fear.
I get it.
But I just want to remind you of something.
When you limit what you do because of fear, whether it’s in a closed Facebook group or in any other area of your life — in your relationships or professionally or even things you are willing to do for fun, you also limit the amount of joy you can receive. The amount of growth you can achieve. The amount of intimacy you can experience.
Setting yourself and your life up to be as predictable and protected and unflawed as possible is safe.
But it’s also so limiting.
IT IS SO LIMITING.
And it prevents you from doing so many things.
It can prevent you from finding happiness and health and prosperity.
What is the worst that can happen?
WHAT IS THE WORST THAT CAN HAPPEN?
Say you posted a recap of your day and something you were struggling with on your Facebook wall and not in a closed group.
You might be a little bit embarrassed.
BUT SUPPOSE YOU POSTED IT IN THE PLACE YOU MEANT IT TO BE POSTED.
Suppose upon doing that, you received support and encouragement and validation.
And it allowed you to take another risk you were afraid to take.
Suppose you were vulnerable with your husband and rather than being shot down by him he you were able to connect on a deeper level than you had ever connected before.
Suppose you took a risk professionally and rather than failing, you fucking killed it?
There is no growth and no movement in being safe.
Being safe doesn’t help you make changes.
Being safe doesn’t help you shift the course of your life.
If you want change, if you want deeper connection, if you want success, playing everything safe and never failing ain’t gonna get you there.
That brave woman in the group who posted last week?
She has now posted three times.
And you know what happened when she acknowledged that she was scared to death to post?
TWO MORE WOMEN WHO WERE SCARED TO DEATH TO POST JUMPED OUT OF THEIR COMFORT ZONE, TOO.
Not only did Brave Badass Woman Number 1 take a risk (that is paying off for her), but she inspired two other women to take risks, too!
By being brave, she made a difference. She was someone’s inspiration. And I am certain that was never even her intention.
Stop living in the safe zone!
Yeah, it’s comfortable there, but there is SO MUCH MORE OUT THERE FOR YOU.
Take a risk.
Discomfort can lead to so much more.
SO MUCH MORE.
Sure, there is a chance you’ll embarrass yourself.
But there’s an even bigger chance that you won’t.