I'm Learning To Keep My Judgments To Myself

A couple months ago I was scrolling through Facebook or Instagram and a food blogger/influencer’s video came up in my feed.

I don’t remember anything about the food because I was so distracted by the woman’s nails.

They were really long and they were very nicely decorated but really long nails just aren’t my thing.

Around food they gross me out.

And I’m sure the food blogging women with long nails are super meticulous about keeping their nails clean and it’s not really a germy thing anyway.

I can’t watch the craft videos with long nails either.

I hate it when my daughter clicks her nails against the table or countertop.

The sound bothers me. A lot.

I appreciate a good manicure but I just don’t like long nails. I never have.

I guess I’m a weirdo that way.

So anyway, when this video came across my feed I commented on the nails.

I can’t remember what I said but it was something along the lines of “EW“.

Whooo Boy did people go off on me for a whole bunch of reasons.

Some were way off base.

But one was spot on.

She said something like, “If you don’t like it then just keep scrolling.”

I’ve been on the receiving end of a lot of troll-y EW! comments.

I know better.

Because I know what it feels like.

There really isn’t any reason for us to proclaim publicly that we don’t like something about someone.

I mean, I don’t know about you but if I saw someone the grocery store with really long nails I wouldn’t walk up to her and tell her they were gross.

So why do we do that online?

It’s not nice.

It’s mean.

And I’m not doing it anymore.

I acknowledged that commenter who called me out. I deleted my comment and I told her basically what I just said here.

I really could have just kept scrolling.

So that’s what I do now.

I’ve started to type a response to something a couple times since the long-nail-food-video incident.

But I’ve caught myself.

And I’m going back to that old addage we all learned in kindergarten.

If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all.

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