In the last 24 hours, how many things have you done that you know you shouldn’t do?
Or the other way around — how many things have you not done that you know you really are supposed to do?
You know, like the not fun stuff.
Did you floss your teeth last night?
Did you go to bed instead of staying up too late watching Netflix?
Did you exercise today?
Did you drink enough water so far today?
Did you waste a shit ton of time on your phone already?
Did you make your bed? Fold all your clothes and put them away? Speak respectfully to your spouse? Not put anything off until the last minute?
Did you stay focused and on task when you were at work?
Did you bend the rules at all?
Did you check Facebook on the job even though you know it’s against the rules?
Did you wear the same clothes two (or three) days in a row, even though your clothes weren’t totally clean?
Did you brush your hair or wash the make up off your face last night?
Did you eat a healthy breakfast, lunch and dinner?
Did you check your planner to make sure you’ve done everything you’re supposed to?
Did you pack your gym bag tonight so you don’t forget anything tomorrow?
Did you hang your purse up where it belongs and put your keys in their designated spot?
Did you plan ahead so you weren’t rushing around at the last minute?
Did you speak kindly to everyone you came into contact with today?
Did you admit when you did something wrong?
Did you pick that thing up off the floor when you walked by it?
I can tell you for certain that I did not do all of these things today.
And I’m a 50-year-old woman.
I know what I’m supposed to do.
And even though I know what the rules are and what I’m supposed to do and what the right thing is, sometimes I don’t do it.
Okay, a lot of the times I don’t do it.
I’m not the only one.
I know because I work with a bunch of women every day and help them do the shit they know they should be doing but just haven’t found the way to do on their own yet.
I just want you to remember how you answered all these questions the next time you want to lose your shit on your kids when they don’t do the stuff they know they are supposed to do.
How many times have you said something like ARE YOU KIDDING ME??? or HOW MANY TIMES DO I HAVE TO TELL YOU TO __________________????? to your kids?
I get it, believe me.
My kids frustrate me every day.
But one reason we allow ourselves to get frustrated by our kids is because we forget that they are kids.
And they are human.
And if there is stuff we don’t do every day even though we know we should, well, then our kids are going to do the same thing.
Because they are kids.
Just a little reminder for you today.
Now I’m gonna go drink some water, put my clothes away, make my bed, and not look at my phone.
Well, at least I’m gonna try.
Donna Brumbaugh says
Love your posts!
This is a wonderful reminder (that I desperately needed in helping my kids get ready for school this morning)! It is very challenging as parents because God knows we are the worst hypocrites (allowed to be, to a certain extent but still!), but we also do things, say things, make decisions while trying to teach and raise our children at the same time. I think we parent the way we do because we want them to excel and leap boundaries way above what we set for ourselves to reach. We want them to strive to be the best versions of themselves and can lose sight of the very human aspects of it all. Very good note, Mama, we all need these kind of reminders. 🙂