Yesterday a friend of mine who is recently divorced sent me a text:
You know how to use a lawn tractor?
I told her I did, but I was at swim practice and I couldn’t help her out until today.
Her ex did all the lawn work, and she had no idea how to use the tractor. But she wanted learn so she could cut the grass.
I went over to her house this morning and discovered the battery was dead. I told her we could jump it just like a car, but I was a little hesitant to attempt that myself, cause I’ve only ever jump started my car.
Fortunately, my dad was coming over later, so I asked him if he’d take a ride to my friend’s house with me to look at the tractor. My dad was a mechanic for Chevrolet for over 40 years, and he can fix anything. And I just wanted to be sure I didn’t do something wrong.
We got to my friend’s house, and my dad jumped the lawn mower, showed us what to do (same thing as the car so I really didn’t need his help) and got it up and running.
My friend said, “I’m afraid I won’t be able to handle this thing.”
I assured her she would be fine, and we showed her how to work everything.
A couple minutes later she was pulling out of the garage on the tractor and she said, “I FEEL SO EMPOWERED!”
And that got me to thinking.
That feeling of empowerment, of knowing you don’t need someone else to do something for you, of being totally capable, is pretty awesome.
And we all should have it.
So I have an assignment for all of you.
This weekend, this month, this summer, empower yourselves.
Learn how to:
- start and operate a lawn mower
- start and operate a string trimmer
- add oil to your car
- add washer fluid
- change a tire
- jump start a car
- use a drill
- use a hammer
- sew a button
- hem a pair of pants
- cook a few basic meals
- plant a garden
- put air in your tires (on a car and a bike)
- Change a bike tire
- fix a bike chain
- and anything else you might normally respond to with “We have to wait until Dad/Mom gets home to fix/take care of that.”
Find a friend who can do all this stuff and ask them to teach you.
If you know how to do all these things already, then make sure your kids do, too.
Make a list and check that sh*t off as a family.
Set your kids up for total empowerment when they are adults. Help them realize that they can do anything.
It’s definitely nice to have people to count on to help you out.
But it’s even nicer knowing that when push comes to shove, the person you can totally depend on is yourself.