Anyone can have a nervous breakdown.
And it doesn’t have to be the result of a recent trauma.
You don’t have to have seven kids.
Or any kids.
Or a recent death.
Or a divorce.
Or a special needs child.
Or have filed for bankruptcy.
You don’t need to have checked off a certain number of boxes on the Criteria for Qualifying for a Nervous Breakdown Checklist.
Whether you are single or married, famous or not, rich or poor, straight or gay, it doesn’t matter.
Life in general is a lot.
We all have our limits.
And sometimes, for whatever reason(s) we go past them.
Taking on too much or having unrealistic expectations for ourselves can be enough to push us over the edge.
So don’t feel like your life isn’t “bad enough” to reach meltdown proportions.
Sometimes just putting too much pressure on yourself is all it takes.
Feeling alone, like you are the only one going through it, or like no one can relate compounds it.
We have all been on different paths.
Our brains are all wired differently.
Some people like chocolate. Some people like vanilla. Some people are allergic to nuts. Some people aren’t.
Some people are pushed over the edge by a dirty dish in the sink.
And some people aren’t.
Comparing your situation to someone else’s won’t make you feel any better.
And it won’t help to heal you.
However you came to be in meltdown mode is okay.
What’s not okay is to not take action to make it better.
It might not be easy, but there is a way out.
And just as the specifics of how you ultimately landed in the rabbit hole may not be the same as those of your neighbor, the specifics of what you need to do to get out may not be the same either.
When you find yourself in meltdown mode, STOP.
Reflect. Reevaluate. Determine what’s most important.
But don’t compare.
You might need more structure.
You might need less.
You might need some drugs.
Or you might need to stop doing them altogether.
You might need to eat more food.
You might need to eat less food.
You might need to eat different food.
You might need to get some rest.
Or you might need to get up and drag your ass out of bed.
But the last thing you need is to keep up with the Joneses in the nervous breakdown department.
The only things you need to worry about are figuring out how you got to where you are, and figuring out what you need to do differently to change it.
It may take a little while, but you can do this.
There are better things out there waiting for you, and better things waiting for your family.
Your struggle is your struggle, and the only person you need to be focusing on is you.
Stop comparing highlight reels, and stop comparing lowlight reels.
Meltdowns are signs. Big, flashing neon signs from the Universe delivering you a message.
Look at the signs. Read them. Listen to the message.
And then go take care of yourself 🙂