I’ve got 3 daughters. They are 2, 4, and 7 years old.
I want them to be strong.
I want them to be confident.
I want them to be overflowing with self-esteem.
I want them to be like…
Miley Cyrus.
Yes.
Miley Cyrus.
Maybe minus all the licking.
The twerking?
Eh.
I went to college.
There’s a lot more than twerking going on in college.
And there are plenty of pictures of me doing suggestive things to inanimate objects, in order to get a rise out of people, in my photo albums.
I don’t know.
Maybe in a few years, Miley will look back on her this-Arizona-grapeade-can-is-a-penis picture with regret.
But who hasn’t done something regrettable in their past?
And who hasn’t learned an important lesson and grown from that?
I mean, it’s not like she lied under oath.
Or cheated on her husband.
Or gave a blow job to the President and let him jiz all over her blue dress.
She’s twenty years old.
And she doesn’t give a flying fuck what people think about her.
How many twenty year olds are confident enough to live their lives that way?
I find her refreshing.
I saw Miley being interviewed by Matt Lauer yesterday.
She was articulate.
She was coherent.
She was confident.
Miley Cyrus is not going to let some guy mistreat her.
She’s not going to do something she doesn’t want to do.
She’s not going to compromise her beliefs in order to gain someone else’s approval.
She held her own with an educated and intelligent man who is almost 3 times her age.
If that were Number 4, or 5, or 7?
I wouldn’t be worried about her.
In fact, on the contrary.
I’d be pretty proud of her.
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I agree, I’ve wondered why people make such a big deal about her actions, she’s young, she’s learning, she’s exploring, she’s 20. I really like your take on it as well.
Not sure I can agree with all of this. She did do things for attention and yes, many have in our past, yada yada, yada. And yes, I watched M C Hammer video with my teen and we laughed about how Bieber is wearing the same kind of pants and how the girl are dressed and basically twerking (which is another bizarre word in itself!). BUT she’s exposing herself, physically, for attention. She’s showing no respect for herself nor the man she was doing that with on stage. Unless she really thinks that’s the way to behave in front of everyone (not your friends in a dorm room party), she’s compromised her beliefs and her integrity. I’m hoping she hasn’t shown others how she’s willing to act to gain popularity and approval. I guess I sound like a stick in the mud, but after having grown up with brothers and mostly male friends (out of choice- girls can be way to catty), girls who act like that are spoken about one way. If I ever acted like that, my brothers (and fake brothers/male friends) would have grabbed me, thrown something over me, and taken me home to sleep it off.
After all I said, I will respectful agree to disagree with anyone who takes offense to my rant. Thank you.
I completely agree, I was a humanities major, and minored in women studies… i understand the importance self esteem and one’s image, and one’s view on our body… but why not claim our sexuality?! Over the decades it has become so taboo to expose one’s thought if they are remotely out of the box or “show-y”… I commend Miley Cyrus! For those who were “disgusted” by her performance at the MVA’s.. why not stop and question Robin Thicke’s song Blurred Lines… It’s a song that is speaking about the blurred lines of consent within a sexual encounter… soooo instead of worrying about Miley’s twerking… perhaps question a pop culture song that is constantly played for children of all age to hear on the radio… that ultimately is perpetuating rape culture…. perhaps that would be a better food for thought?!
Thank you! I have a 13 year old who loves Miley for everything you just stated. She thinks it weird that she’s taking her clothes off… but seriously the more people keep slut shaming her the more my daughter sees just how confident Miley is and loves her even more. I’m not worried about Miley’s influence on my daughter at all; I’ve raised a strong confident young lady who just happens to LOVE pop music and Miley.
Couldn’t agree more. Watch her documentary “Miley: The Movement” on MTV. It was really good, made me understand her more. I’m also a Mom to 3 girls ages 3, 5, & 7.
We all seem to forget that Miley held down a job, got a regular paycheck, and was responsible far before most people her age have to be. Now she wants to have fun, and be Miley, not be told who she is.
I can attribute a lot of her behavior to her being young. However I don’t condone drug use. Sorry. She makes references to the drug Molly-and for that I have a problem.
I don’t have teenage daughters, i have teenage sons. They can’t stand Miley Cyrus and think she’s ridiculous and desperate for attention — their own opinion.
My opinion: she is following in the footsteps of other Disney stars, and it’s rather predictable. She is working that contrast: innocent, beloved child star/strip club sexual young adult. She’s going more for the raunch aspect that Britney or Christina did, but it’s the same formula — and the culture has the same reaction (yawn, this keeps repeating with no change in mass behavior: it’s collective insanity!)
Miley’s confidence — i am not so sure about. I have seen people like her who appear to be very confident but are actually deeply insecure; she has an extremely extroverted personality and is likely fun to be around. But she also has a lot of personality hallmarks of someone who needs massive amounts of attention to feel good about herself. These personality traits often lead to tragedy when the attention stops. Unlike some child stars, she is not someone who appears to seek to know herself through education, and she doesn’t come across as an educated young woman. She is street smart and celeb-smart to the max, but that only goes so far.
I think this is the basis of the concern that people like Sinead have had about her. The attention will dry up . . . it does for everyone, and that’s when the trouble begins. Madonna has had the longest run, but she is a lot more than street smart, she is ingenious. I don’t see that in Miley. I really don’t care what she does – twerking, shocking, whatever — but it appears that she is doing it for the attention (hence her quotes with Matt Lauer, i.e. ‘it worked’). When she stops garnering attention and runs out of attention strategies . . . when the next up and coming female takes her spot . . . what happens to her then? Maybe she will be prove to be as smart as Madonna and learn the art of transformation . . . but I think it is more likely that she is headed for trouble. Time will tell.
Agreed, she is a grown adult who is very articulate and knows what she wants and how to get it. When she doesn’t want to be seen like this anymore, she will move on. Angelina Jolie went from kissing her brother and wearing blood around her neck to saving children and becoming a humanitarian. It’s just WHEN will she grow up? I have a 12 y/o who loved Hannah Montana….but my 12 y/o is old enough to know that she has lost her mind….only briefly….and it can happen to us all. Lindsey Lohan did it best…the worst media attention is exactly what can help you…because then you are ALL over the place. Kudos for Miley right before her album hit! She is working the system.
I don’t think anyone argues that Miley has orchestrated this media circus perfectly timed with the release of her new album. That makes her a savvy business woman, not a roll model. Let’s be clear there. There is a far and wide river of crap between the two. When my daughter started to covet Hanna Montana t-shirts, backpacks, and school supplies I wanted to learn more. It didn’t take long to look at some posts she put on YouTube ridiculing and taunting Selena Gomez, Demi Levato, and a few others. THAT looked a lot like cyber-bullying to me. I read she had vaguely apologized for that. I thought she had learned her lesson only to find she has graduated to ridicule on her Twitter page instead. I then stumbled across a news article that put together a bunch of clips of her parking in handicapped spots in 7-11’s and parking lots only to flip the bird at people who asked her to move her vehicle. Seriously moms? I get that she’s about as smart as the Lady Gaga’s and Madonna or Britney when it comes to proving fodder for the gossip pages, but please really look at who you are promoting when raising your ‘strong, confident daughters’.
Doing crazy things because they are fun…..and doing crazy things for attention are two different things. Miley is doing crazy things for attention…..If you need attention that bad…you (more than likely) have no self esteem or confidence. Confident people could give a crap if you notice them or not…they don’t have time to worry about it because they are too busy being awesome……and having fun.
Case in point…..look at #4.
Deanna, I don’t know who you are– but you NAILED IT!
(sorry for not following sooner — this looked like a good converstaion yesterday) I’m a little late to the party.
Yes, she has the right to make her own mistakes. I just hope she’ll learn her lesson fast before it will all be too late for her. I want her to remain a good role model for my daughter – who used to be a big fan of hers – as much as the next mom so I really do hope she’ll straighten up her act soon.
I disagree completely about Miley. I mean she can lick whatever inanimate objects she wants, she can twerk to her little hearts desire, that’s not my concern (although I think she does it for the wrong reasons)…but singing about “dancing with Molly” and “trying to get a line in the bathroom” is hardly appropriate! That’s really the example you want someone to set for your child? Telling little girls that drug use is fine because “it’s our party we can do what we want” ? That’s not a great role model.