Yesterday I said I was done talking about the Mom Grows a Business conference.
I guess I lied.
Because I remembered one more thing.
There was a main presenter that I haven’t mentioned named Angela Jia Kim.
I had never heard of her before, although she is apparently pretty successful.
While she was talking, I didn’t really find myself relating to her.
She owns a boutique spa in New York City. She had not an ounce of fat on her. Her clothes and her shoes were nice. Really nice. So was her hair. And her makeup.
She was…glamorous.
And as I sat there feeling my Spanx slowly roll down and rest under the bulge that they were supposed to be holding in, I was about to completely tune her out.
But then she got my attention.
Because this woman wasn’t just about spas and makeup.
She created her business from nothing.
I can relate to that.
And she had a power point presentation shining on a big screen with a bunch of bullet points describing the things she does to create success.
And one of those bullet points was gorgeous chaos.
Okay. Not the words I would choose.
But they aren’t really new.
She was referring to finding the good buried withing the bad.
Someone else might say
Look on the bright side.
Or
Every cloud has a silver lining.
I know…
When you are really pissed and someone says something along those lines to you, you just want to punch them in the face.
But they’re right.
Finding the good in a bad situation can be difficult.
But stewing and fuming and complaining and yelling is tiring.
And it’s no fun.
For you.
Or for the people around you.
And it doesn’t get you anywhere.
Think about the pages on Facebook that you “like.”
How many of them are entitled
This Sucks
or
What An Asshole
Or
I Fucking Hate My Life?
Nope.
The pages you follow make you laugh.
They inspire you.
Saturday Night Live used to have a skit called Debbie Downer.
Rachel Dratch was pretty good at playing a depressed, glass-half-empty, miserable woman.
And it was funny because she was so pathetic.
And because you only had to listen to it once a week.
For like 5 minutes.
When you have a friend, or coworker, or spouse, or anyone else in your life on a regular basis who is like that every single day,
well,
you don’t want to be around them.
They drag you down.
Debbie Downer had no friends.
Debbie Downer was not a guest speaker at a Tony Robbins conference.
And Debbie Downer was not dressed in Chanel, driving a BMW, and living the high life.
It wasn’t bringing her happiness, and it wasn’t bringing her money.
So why do that to yourself?
Why go through your day like that?
Instead, why not actively make your day, and someone else’s day…
better?
So I have a challenge for you.
Be a bright spot in the day of everyone you come into contact with for the next 24 hours.
Say Hello! or Good Morning! to everybody.
To the cashier, the dude making your coffee, the guy at the deli, the receptionist at the doctor’s office, the lady you pass in the grocery store parking lot,
even that bitch at the baseball field who never gives you the time of day.
Everyone.
Get your face out of your phone and your phone out of your hand.
Be present.
Smile.
Acknowledge the other human beings around you.
And if one of them doesn’t do the same in return?
Add in a Have a Great Day! and continue on your way, knowing that yesterday, you might have been one of those people.
But today?
Today you weren’t.
And who knows?
It might feel so good, that you might just want to do it again tomorrow.
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