It’s my 48th birthday today. It’s also my 13th wedding anniversary. As my husband put it this morning, it’s my Birthiversary. I gotta tell you, I did not think we were going to make it this far. My husband and I have struggled for basically our entire marriage. But the last two months have been …Read More
This post is for anyone who is struggling. For anyone who is sick and tired of blow after blow after blow. For anyone who feels like they can’t catch a fucking break. And I hate vague posts. Vaguebooking. You know, when someone posts something on Facebook along the lines of I just don’t know what to do …Read More
What do you do when you are struggling in your marriage but there hasn’t been any one catastrophic event that has caused the trouble? When there hasn’t been cheating? When there hasn’t been addiction. When there hasn’t been abuse? What do you do when you and your spouse have just reached a point where you cannot …Read More
There is a vineyard in my town. It’s 1.7 miles from my house as the crow flies, and a 3.3 mile drive. And in the seven years I have lived here, I’ve never been there. Until today. Today I went there with a bunch of friends to surprise another friend for her birthday. It was …Read More
What I learned in therapy yesterday (and 52 things you can do to improve the quality of your marriage).
Last night my husband and I went to see a new marriage therapist. Or couples counselor. Or whatever you want to call it. We are approaching twelve years of marriage, and this is the fourth therapist we have seen. Our first therapist was a super nice lady. We liked her. But we both liked her …Read More
The other day I was talking to a friend who has a daughter in high school. She was telling me how her daughter had a rough year this past year. My friend was telling me how she and her husband got their daughter into therapy, how the therapist explained to them and to their daughter that …Read More
Anyone can have a nervous breakdown. ANYONE. And it doesn’t have to be the result of a recent trauma. You don’t have to have seven kids. Or any kids. Or a recent death. Or a divorce. Or a special needs child. Or have filed for bankruptcy. You don’t need to have checked off a certain number …Read More