If your child has ever had night terrors, READ THIS.

If you are the parent to more than one child, you are well aware of how two children who were both conceived by the same people can be completely different in a multitude of ways.

It doesn’t take long to figure that out.

And just as your children have different personalities, they will also have different bumps and bruises and  illnesses and hurdles with which to deal.

With each child you will become familiar with a growing number of medical and psychological conditions.

There will be rashes and croup and fifth’s disease and allergic reactions and teeth coming in at all sorts of fucked up directions. There will be broken bones and lice and anxiety and OCD and fevers and strep throat and flu and RSV and bronchitis and pneumonia and lots of other stuff.

The more kids you have, the longer it takes for your blood pressure to increase, because you have most likely been there and done that.

We have seen a lot after seven kids.

But every once in a while, one of your kids will get sick or demonstrate some sort of condition that you haven’t experienced before.

We are having one of those situations with Number 4.

And I could use your help.

Number 4 has been experiencing night terrors for the past few days.

This isn’t the first time she’s had them.

But this last round is lasting a little longer than usual.

Tonight she was supposed to sleep over at a friend’s house, and we had to cancel the sleepover part of the get together.

Poor Number 4 was very upset, and I feel terrible for her.

If you’ve never experienced a night terror, they are much different from a nightmare.

Your child often appears to be completely wide awake and coherent. But also completely panic stricken or terrified.

It is not uncommon for kids to get out of bed. To flail their arms. To talk to you very clearly. To attempt to leave the house.

And these night terrors are usually more upsetting for the people witnessing them than they are for the people having them.

Number 4 has no recollection these episodes in the morning.

But Number 3 was pretty freaked out by the one he witnessed two nights ago.

And I knew if Number 4 slept over at her friend’s house and her friend saw her in that state, she’d likely be a little traumatized. And it could be upsetting for her parents, too.

We talked about it this morning.

Number 4 told me she was embarrassed. She started crying.

What’s wrong with me?, she asked through tears.

And that’s when I told her why I write about stuff here on the blog that people don’t always talk about.

How lots of people are scared to talk about things because they are under the assumption that they are the only people experiencing them.

I told Number 4 how when I write about them I feel better because lots of people tell me how they are going or have gone through the same thing.

And then I don’t feel alone or embarrassed at all.

I did my best to convince Number 4.

You are not the only person who is going through this. And this is not your fault. Sometimes it just happens. This is a phase you are going through, and just as it has come on without warning, at some point it will also go away.

She looked at me like she wanted to believe me.

But I don’t think she really did.

It sucks going through something like this as an adult, feeling like you are fucked up and the only one in the world who is.

But when it’s your eight-year-old daughter, it’s heartbreaking.

So I asked her if I could write about it today.

I promised her that if she let me, I would hear from other parents whose kids are going through or have gone through the same thing.

That other moms and dads would share stories of their kids who also have night terrors.

That if she shared what was going on with her, she wouldn’t feel like more of an outcast.

She would feel like less of one.

I assured her she would go from feeling alone to feeling like lots and lots of other people could understand what she was going through. That she would feel supported. And know there are many kids out there just like her.

Number 4 looked at me and she said, “Okay, Mommy. You can write about it.”

And she looked a little bit relieved.

So if you’ve got any experience with this shitty issue, I’d love to hear about it. And so would Number 4.

I’d love to show her that she’s in good company.

And even more importantly, I’d really love to teach her the lesson that while it can be terrifying to put yourself out there, that when you do,  not only do you realize that you are helping yourself, but you are helping tens, hundreds, or sometimes even thousands of other people.

And that feels pretty awesome.

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42 replies
  1. Jen
    Jen says:

    My step-daughter went through the same thing! Completely terrifying! She, as well, did not remember them in the morning. She would wake up with a piercing scream, crying uncontrollably, and was completely inconsolable…. For about 7-10 minutes, 3-4 times per week, for about 6-8 months. I learned to just be there with her & not try to reason with her or ask her questions. She wouldn’t answer my questions anyway, because of course, she was still asleep. She is now a fifth grader & has sleepovers a lot. She overcame them & so can you #4! There are many kids out there feeling the same way as you. You Are Not Alone, Kiddo!
    Jen

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  2. Nikki
    Nikki says:

    My daughter that is now 14 experienced night terrors several times a week from the ages of 5-7. I went through a terrible guilty phase for a while. When my daughter first started experiencing them, I had never heard of them and didn’t know what was going on. Because, as you said, she appeared completely awake and coherent…I got frustrated with her and would raise my voice or attempt to doscipline thinking she was just trying to avoid bedtime. She would also not remember a thing the morning. Once the pediatrician explained to both of us what was going on… we both felt better. Your sweetheart is not alone.

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  3. Katy Espenschied
    Katy Espenschied says:

    my son used to have night terrors all the time. It was terrifying as his mom, being completely helpless and having no rhyme or reason why he had them or how to make them stop. He had no idea what would happen, but he would scream and scream. You would of thought the kids hair was on fire the way he freaked out. Eventually he out grew them and now he hasn’t had one for a really long time. You’re daughter is def not alone, I know so many moms who’s kids had the same issue. Hoping it gets better for you!

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  4. Carmen
    Carmen says:

    Now that you bring it up, it’s been 2 years since our oldest had the same experience. We tried to understand it on our own. But they continued. Finally we asked for prayer at church and started to see them lessen. Our oldest is an anxious girl and has a very hard time making a decision. Prayerhas been our choice of healing. We will prayer for your girl too.

    All the best!

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  5. Heather
    Heather says:

    Hang in there is all I can say. My middle daughter had these for sbout a year and a half. They got so bad tgat they were lasting 45 min to an hour and by the time I would get her back to sleep and we would finally start falling back tk sleep she was up eith another one. Sometimes 4-8i a night. It had me in tears and our marriage was very stressed due to lack of sleep. I finally talked to a PA that I work with and he said if it was his kid he would cut out all processed foods and artifical dye.Knowing how hard that would be I started with what she had last the night before our worst one. She had some candy with red dye.Thats where we started. I eliminated ALL red dye from her diet, they stopped almost immediately so we didn’t have to go any further. I kept her off for about a year and then slowly reintroduced it. I told the pediatrician, and he said that it would have nothing to do with the dye. Maybe it was a coincidence but it worked !! Hang in there and know you are not alone!!!

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  6. Angie
    Angie says:

    Hey there momma! I am the other bat shit crazy mom of 7 that has a very foul mouth!! Lol Now with that being said I will try to write this for little lady so you can read it to her.
    Hi sweetie. My son’s name is Bryce and he has a bunch of brothers and sisters just like you.

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  7. Angie
    Angie says:

    Whoops and now the rest
    Bryce is also a twin. He doesn’t think that part is very cool. Bryce also has very scary dreams with his eyes open like you. And yes silly girl he thinks something is wrong too. I told Bryce when I was a little girl I did too. Man is it ever hard to go back to sleep after this happens huh? The cool thing about dreams is they are pictures in our mind that we don’t control. Dreams just kind of happen. When Bryce is really tired or sometimes right before he gets a cold this happens. Bryce has these for up to an hour sometimes whew that is rough. Thank goodness we don’t really remember them. We have a special washcloth that is all his for when this happens. Us mommies can tell when this is about to happen. That is where we come in to help. I grab his washcloth and run it under cold water. I know that sounds kind of mean but really listen to the cool things that go with it. I fold the cloth up and put it to his cheek while we sit in the rocking chair together. The cold water helps wake him up.Yes sometimes I have to follow him around the house and outside while he is still sleeping. Silly huh? Then I pick him up a bunch of times and put him back in the chair with me. I sing songs to him and whisper that I am here and he will be ok. “Don’t cry Mommy is here” just like your Mommy does. He is just one year younger than you too. While you are little I know this is very hard on you but us Mommies are here to help you. This won’t last much longer because when you get older like me you will learn how to wake yourself up. Hang in there sweet girl and I hope this helps you and Mommy and if you want you can even share this with your brothers and sisters. Better dreams to come ?

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  8. Natalie
    Natalie says:

    My daughter had night terrors for about 18 months. She would come running into our room, heart racing and sweaty. She would be terrified of someone or something that was out to get her or us. Her eyes would be wide open and glazed over. No matter what I said it would not console her. I would take her back to bed and lay with her and rub her back until she calmed down and fell back to sleep. No recollection in the morning. This went on at least 3 times a week. I talked to doctors and psychologists who all told me she would grow out of it. I was exhausted for a year and a half. But suddenly it stopped and she never had another on. Hang in there. You both will get through it.

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  9. Sabine
    Sabine says:

    Hi there!

    You are not alone! My son who is 4.5 years old has night terrors. It is definitely scary to witness, but he has no recollection of them when he wakes up. Hang in there little one. I have done some research and learned that a lot of kids outgrow them by around age 10.
    When our son is old enough for sleepovers, I don’t want this to hold him back from having fun and attending. Everyone has different fears…I remember reading about a very famous actress being scared of sleepovers because she use to pee herself at night…every night…until she was in her late teens. She didn’t let that stop her from attending sleepovers though!
    I talk in my sleep…I sometimes swear in German! My husband snores like crazy! We have a cat that toots!!! in his sleep!

    My point is, everyone has their little ticks and things that makes us…us. Hang in there 🙂

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  10. laurie
    laurie says:

    My son had them as well. What worked for us was that he would usually have them about the same time (12 a.m.) So we started waking him up at 11:00 just for a couple of minutes, then letting him go back to sleep and then he wouldn’t have them. I know that doctors say that there is no proof about the red food dye, but we cut that out as well and also saw a huge difference. Hope this helps, it does go away! 🙂

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  11. Anne
    Anne says:

    45 years ago my little sister went through a period of talking in her sleep, scared to death, asking to go outside. No doctors or psychobabble were discussed. My grandfather took her outside till she calmed down and then put her back to bed. After awhile it went away, but it was awful when she was going through it. Best wishes, #4, night scares have been happening for years.

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  12. Erica
    Erica says:

    My pediatrician said to see what time they are occurring and gently shake your child 45 min before (don’t wake them, just shake or touch till they are almost awake). Rousing them resets the dream cycle and they skip the night terror. Do this for a week every night. Hope it helps!

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  13. GwynEth
    GwynEth says:

    My son is two and four months and started having night terrors shortly after turning one. The pediatrician agreed that’s early but he is very verbal and was already speaking full sentences by one. The dreams are awful. He cries and screams and grips onto mommy or daddy with some serious strength. I think he might actual rip my shirt off! He has these terrors every fees weeks, sometimes a few nights in a row and then they seem to calm down for a while before returning. I myself had night terrors from about the same age through age 12 according to my mom. I do recall some of the episodes when I was older but nothing when I was younger. Point being – kids just outgrow them and #4 will too!

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  14. Charli
    Charli says:

    Hey Susie, I’m a mom of three girls 9,6, & 3. My oldest girls have experienced night terrors too! I have figured for my girls it usually happens when they are exhausted. I will usually start bumping up their bed time by 15 minutes or so for a few days, then bump it up 15 more minutes until they catch up on their sleep and the terrors ease up. My middle girl was also diagnosed with low ferritin which can also lead to sleep disturbances…her levels are normal now, but she’ll still have them if she’s overly tired. Hope this helps-hang in there-and thanks for writing! I look forward to it (my ten minutes of peace).

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  15. Angie
    Angie says:

    My oldest daughter, now 19 was victim of night terrors around the age of 3. We had a great pediatrician….old school peds…who assured us that this would pass, and yes it is terrifying for all involved. She would also appear to be wide awake, but it seemed as if she were looking right through us. We put chain locks up high on every door, including the one to the basement as well as a baby gate at her door (just to slow her down until we reached her) as we had put the baby monitor back in use. This old and wise pediatrician had us give a 1/2 tsp of Dimetapp before bed and it worked like a charm. Good luck!! And Number 4, this too shall pass sweetheart and there is NOTHING wrong with you, just another childhood thing that a lot of other kids experience too. 🙂

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  16. Tracy
    Tracy says:

    I’m so glad you posted this because my oldest (4 years old) just started having them and I figured with seven kids you must have some experience with night terrors. They are absolutely terrifying but thank goodness they are worse for me and my husband than our son. I’ve been googling night terrors quite a bit recently and read that often times having your child go to the bathroom can snap him or her out of it. I’ve tried this with my son the last 3 times and it worked! I had to pick him up and put him on the toilet but then I put him back in bed and he fell right asleep! The entire episode lasted 5 minutes. Before I read this tip he had 3 night terrors that each lasted 30 minutes. Maybe it’s a coincidence but definitely worth a try. Thanks for sharing. I’m glad to know my son is in good company with someone as smart, funny, creative, kind and ambitious as number 4. Keep calm and take a pee!

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  17. Richie
    Richie says:

    I hope she feels better by reading these comments because what she is going through is not uncommon in my family! And she’ll grow out of it. I should know; my sister did! My sister was number 4’s age when she got out of bed, walked into the living room, and looked at my aunt and mom who were talking. Mom asked her if she needed anything and why was she out of the bed? My sis got mad, said some words, and then pulled her pants down, sat on the recliner, and peed! After she was done, she pulled her pants back up and went back to bed, looking totally coherent and awake throughout. You can imagine my mom and aunt with mouths open and utter disbelief all over their faces from what just went down – literally! And that’s just ONE story of my sister’s night terrors. Fortunately, she grew out of it. However, payback if something else, right? She seemed to have passed it down to her daughter, my niece, now 12. My niece has had quite a few herself, but in the most recent years, she is not as terrorizing as this one scary incident: she was staying the night at her dad’s for the weekend, and her dad, at the time, was living near a lake with a dock ramp. My niece was found at the edge of the dock just staring into the water in the middle of the night. When her dad found her – completely freaked out – he told her to go back to bed, and so she simply turned around and went back towards the house and found her way into her bed.

    So see? It could always be worse. Even for my niece it could have been worse! But Number 4 is definitely not alone ans rest assured, it will not last forever.

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  18. Micki Montoro
    Micki Montoro says:

    My 4 year old had night terrors for about 6 months around 2-3 years of age. It was awful. I hoped my younger would not have the same experience. But now at 2 years and 4 months old, he has started having them a few nights each week. I just try to comfort him as he flails about screaming in apparent fear. And my heart breaks for my little guys because I, too, suffered from night terrors into my mid-twenties. They are no fun, but so far we are all turning out to be quite okay! So hang in there, Number 4, you are not alone, you are not an outcast, but you are most definitely a very strong young girl!

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  19. Jennifer
    Jennifer says:

    I have a 12 year old son who was diagnosed with ADHD by the time he was in 1st grade. I even remember arguing with the teacher that he could not be put on meds until he was 6 (his bday is in november). He started his sleepwalking when he was little, i would say 4 but honestly i dont think he ever slept thru the night to begin with. I think he was about 4 he starting sleepwalking, which is night terrors. I never like to use that word, makes it sound scary. But he would wake up and eyes wide open, get up and at first he seemed to be trying to get out of the house in a panic, so we got child locks at the top of the doors. Then he was getting up and walking around, frantically looking for something, or he would try to have a conversation and makes no sense sometimes mumbling, sometimes panicked. I would just take him back to his bed and be calm and tell him its ok, time to get in bed, tuck him in, rub his back. But that stopped when he started adhd meds. I dont know why or how it works. This article made me think of him since he has missed his pill a few times this summer. I know it happens and just stay calm and guide him back to bed. I have noticed a pattern, always between an hour and 2 hours that it occurs. I hope some of this helps, not sure about sleepovers.

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    • Jennifer
      Jennifer says:

      I have a 12 year old son who was diagnosed with ADHD by the time he was in 1st grade. I even remember arguing with the teacher that he could not be put on meds until he was 6 (his bday is in november). He started his sleepwalking when he was little, i would say 4 but honestly i dont think he ever slept thru the night to begin with. I think he was about 4 he starting sleepwalking, which is night terrors. I never like to use that word, makes it sound scary. But he would wake up and eyes wide open, get up and at first he seemed to be trying to get out of the house in a panic, so we got child locks at the top of the doors. Then he was getting up and walking around, frantically looking for something, or he would try to have a conversation and make no sense sometimes mumbling, sometimes panicked. I would just take him back to his bed and be calm and tell him its ok, time to get in bed, tuck him in, rub his back. But that stopped when he started adhd meds. I dont know why or how it works. This article made me think of him since he has missed his pill a few times this summer. I know when its happening and just stay calm and guide him back to bed. I have noticed a pattern, always between an hour and 2 hours after falling asleep that it occurs. I hope some of this helps, not sure about sleepovers.

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  20. Sarah
    Sarah says:

    Wow..like my 5 yr old just had one a few minutes before I saw your article. Been having them for over a year. We’ve tried white noise or keeping her to her bed every night, but no change really. Just waiting for her to grow out of them. I slept walk from about age 5-10 so maybe it’s genetic(?). Hang in there mama!

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  21. Heather
    Heather says:

    There has also been a link recently in the medical field with iron deficiency and nightmares/terrors. Might be something to consider checking if the other suggestions for trying to help her doesn’t work.

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  22. Erin
    Erin says:

    My oldest started with them at the age of 2 (she’s now 11). She would “wake up” crying and couldn’t tell you why she was so upset. She would occasionally get up out of bed and walk around. One time, we even woke up to her crying outside in the middle of the night. She recalled NONE of it. It was very disconcerting for us until we figured out she wasn’t even awake. We would just put her back in bed and comfort her until she fell asleep. The episodes began tapering off and she eventually grew out of it, the last being about 3 years ago. We found that ensuring she didn’t get too ever tired and got plenary of rest helped, to some degree.

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  23. Daniela
    Daniela says:

    Hi! My (then 6 yr old) daughter suffered from night terrors every night for about 3 months. It was extremely draining for me, especially until I researched a little and found out about night terrors…it did not affect her so much – she actually never quite believed that they happened at all, since, as you said, she had absolutely no recollection of them at all in the morning. What used to impress me the most was the way that, one minute she would be terrified, clutching at me, repeating the same word over and over, staring consistently into the same spot in the room, and then, the next second, she would close her eyes and fall into the deepest sleep and nothing i would try could wake her up. Not a nice experience at all, but it was gone as suddenly as it started, with no logical explanation. So don’t worry young lady, I do not know you much, but from what I hear, you are tough enough to get through much more than these night terrors!! hugs!xxxx

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  24. JoAnna
    JoAnna says:

    My niece had them for a while when she was a but younger than no. 4. She is also super bright. The doctor advised the family to introduce super structured bedtime routines –same sequence every night-and the terrors subsided shortly after that. Good luck!!

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  25. Suzanne
    Suzanne says:

    I had night terrors at two points in my life, and I still remember them (I’m 38!). Not the details, but the general gist. FYI, they can be tactile, too, as well as visual and auditory. The longest stint lasted 9 months when I was 11 years old. I would wake up around midnight every night, go to the bathroom, get back in bed and try to go back to sleep, then it would start. The rest of the night I would be half-awake, half asleep. I was continually sleep-deprived my entire 5th grade year. Sometimes one of my parents would come in and stay with me, other times I would go stay with them. It didn’t make the night terrors go away, but it helped to not be physically alone. I will tell you what helped and what didn’t. We went to our pastor, he laughed and patted me on the head. That didn’t help. We went to a counselor, did the things she suggested to reduce my anxiety levels. Cut out all but one extracurricular activity, and then added an art lesson to channel my creativity/highly active imagination. Children with night terrors have very active imaginations and often high anxiety levels. This helped, some. But I think it was mostly just time. Love and time. Number 4, this is a phase, it will pass. It sucks, I know, but you are not alone.

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  26. Kim
    Kim says:

    I am 23 years old and I now have 1-3 night terrors per year. I started having them when I was 12, we never found out the cause or what slowed them down, but they reduced from around 3 per month so number 4 you are not alone even adults have them sometimes

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  27. Anjanette CLINE
    Anjanette CLINE says:

    My son had them from the age of about six to eight. They are super scary. Some of his lasted only five minutes but one time I think there was one that lasted 30 minutes. Thank goodness for the internet because it calmed me immediately knowing that these were normal and usually kids outgrow them. He is almost nine now and I don’t think he’s had one for at least a year. My husband and I did note that sometimes it seemed it would happen on days when he had lots of sugar, and perhaps a lot of activity. The activity part completely defies the rule of them sleeping better when they’ve had more activity. My husband and I are quite good at self diagnosing. Aren’t we all? Sometimes I would try to give him a drink of water, and that would seem to snap him out of it. I hope your little one feels comfort with all these replies. This too shall pass. Thank you for a wonderful, honest blog, that makes me laugh and keeps me sane!

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  28. Erika
    Erika says:

    My daughter has been getting these for several years, off and on. She is 7 now. I have noticed she often gets the night terrors when she’s about to show symptoms of being sick. Like, a day or two after one, she’ll have symptoms of an ear infection or strep throat or something. I also think being too warm or going to bed with a full bladder can trigger them, so we use light pj’s and ensure she uses the potty before bed. When she does have these episodes, they seem to always happen around 10 or 11 pm, so I try to go in to her room around that time and kiss her forehead and tell her I love her. I don’t fully wake her, just kind of lightly wake her so that she rolls over or repositions. I think that helps her get out of whatever sleep cycle she is in, and then she doesn’t have a terror. Good luck; her pediatrician said it’s normal :/. I know it’s terrifying to witness. If she’s in the middle of an episode, I take her to the bathroom and have her bare feet touch the cold tile floor and then have her go potty. Sometimes it helps bring her out of it.

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  29. Jean
    Jean says:

    My #2 had night terrors when she was 4 (she’s 8 now) and they were crazy! She would attack us, scream and yell, and nearly hurt herself from jumping off the bed. We co-slept with all our babies and they slept great so I thought I would try co-sleeping again. It worked great! She slept in our bed for a few weeks and then we transitioned her back to her bed. She hasn’t had another night terror since. The night terrors seem to be a stage and I bet you’ll be past it soon.
    Best wishes!

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  30. HeatheR
    HeatheR says:

    Yes! Our daughter went through night terrors. They did t happen every night, but they were very upsetting to witness when they did. She would sit up in bed and scream and cry inconsolably. Sometimes she would say words and (possibly?) sentences, but her father and I couldn’t understand what she was saying. It was heartbreaking to witness because she was so distraught, but she’s have no recollection of them the next morning. They lasted about a year. They will end!!

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  31. Catherine M.
    Catherine M. says:

    I had sisters who suffered from night terrors, it was very scary and difficult for my parents. But, as do most things in life, the phase passed and they are perfectly happy adults now with their own little ones. I thought of this npr segment I heard once, I have pasted it below, if you can listen to it instead of reading it as the narrator is very good and somthing is lost without the emotion in his voice.

    http://www.npr.org/2013/12/06/249224556/turn-on-the-lights

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  32. Sarah
    Sarah says:

    My little brother had them. & I remember being terrified. Number 4, you are not alone & it will go away. Right now, you just have to trust your momma. She may not know much about these, but she knows what’s best for you.

    Suzie, there are TONS of home remedies. I have a friend who doesn’t let her son have sugar after 4pm. & She uses a LOT of lavender.

    I hope you guys get a good night sleep soon.

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  33. kristen petitti
    kristen petitti says:

    my son has ben having them off and on since he was an infant, when he has them which happen mostly at the change of a
    season(no clue why but they totally line up) we will rouse him about twenty or thirty minutes before he usually has them(around 2 am) so that he’s still asleep but kind of awake and it will help break the cycle.

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  34. Lisa
    Lisa says:

    My son, now 12, has had them since he was an infant. Was always worse when he went through a lot of changes in homelife, school etc. And can still count on them if we stay in a hotel or he has a sleepover (change in location) almost always he is fighting someone off and is scared (received one black eye trying to calm him) He never remembers and as a family try and now to laugh about it (although he still gets upset sometimes as he has no control)
    Mostly I try to not let him get too overtired and restrict anything that could disturb his sleep. And I ALWAYS warn parents/camp staff before any sleepovers!

    Good luck!

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  35. Suzi
    Suzi says:

    Hello, how brave your girl is to let you share this and help us all to feel less alone.
    My seven year old gets them as well, and as someone else noted above, it seems to be a harbinger of sickness, esp strep.
    If you notice they are happening at a certain point at night, as someone suggested rousing her a little can disturb the sleep cycle and avoid the terror.
    Good luck to you both. She’s not alone – and you’re right, hearing that other children have outgrown it helped me at least!

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  36. Brittany
    Brittany says:

    Both my boys suffered from night terrors, starting at about age 6. It was completely terrifying. The trick that works for them is to immediately take them to the bathroom and make them go. This snaps them out of it every single time. They are now 9 and 13 respectively and rarely have them. My 7 year old daughter has never had one. Fingers crossed. Good luck!

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  37. Gina Hallowell
    Gina Hallowell says:

    My daughter who is 8 now has had them since she was 4. I found for her cutting back on sugar has helped. We finally started keeping track of what she had eaten during each day and they seemed to be worse if she had more sugar than usual that day. She still gets them but not as often. She always called it sleep crying . She would get up and say was I sleep crying last night? Because she never remembers.

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  38. Trisha
    Trisha says:

    My son (now 25) had them on and off from age 4-8. One time we had to pick him up at 3 am from a sleepover when he had one. In his case they seemed to happen when he had had a particularly busy (sensory overload) day, so they happened more frequently in the summer when our schedule wasn’t as rigid. To help prevent them on days that were jammed packed with activities, we would try to get home early enough so that he could have an hour or so to just chill. Waking him up about 2 hours after he had gone to bed to use the bathroom also seemed to help prevent them. Some things that may help in the midst of one is to change the smell of his surroundings by spraying a room freshener. The shift in scent would seem to snap him out of it. I also remember trying to distract him by asking him to hold random unbreakable items. Once he would set or throw the item down I would ask him to hold something else. When all else failed we would just talk to him and make sure he didn’t harm himself until the episode passed. For the most part he quit having them when by the time he was 9. He says he thinks he had one when he was in USMC bootcamp when he was 19. So tell her she is brave and that even “bad ass” Marines have them.

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  39. Sara_by
    Sara_by says:

    My 8 month old daughter is going through this as well. It’s gotten so bad to where she has hurt herself (just with her nails or the buckle of her car seat whatever she is in at the time) It is very scary I do agree. She doesn’t even recognize me or her father when she is having them. We just hold her and tell her it’s okay until she calms down. So I do understand and she is not alone. I wish I knew how to help my precious baby girl better.

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  40. Gunner Quinn
    Gunner Quinn says:

    Night terrors….my grandson five just had one while we were vacationing.terrifing….we went to emergency room not knowing what was going on…they shrugged off..he was seeing bugs and eggs on both me and his mother..screaming eyes were wide open like he was scared to death.He finally calmed down after hours but still talked about for two days…never want to experience again….

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