My husband and I had a big fight the other day.
Like huge.
The details don’t matter.
What matters is that my therapist has been telling me to move out of my comfort zone.
I can do it physically. No problem.
Give me a marathon and I will fucking run it.
But the emotional stuff is so hard for me.
I was at Number 3’s baseball game this morning, and I was sitting on the bleachers.
Before I go any further, know that I am not a nickname kind of person.
I don’t call the kids sweetie or honey or sweetheart or anything like that.
And I definitely don’t say that to my husband.
It’s just not my thing.
So today I was at Number 3’s game, and I was sitting in the bleachers, and I was sitting with some moms, and the husband of one of the moms came over to the bleachers and she said to him,
“Hey, Handsome…”
For no reason.
She didn’t want anything.
And I thought to myself,
Wow.
That was nice.
I bet that made her husband feel pretty good about himself.
I thought about if the tables were turned.
If my husband walked up to me while I sat at a baseball game and said, “Hey, Beautiful,”
well,
I’d feel pretty awesome.
And that is really how I want to make my husband feel.
Like I think he’s the most handsome guy around.
And I do.
But I don’t really tell him that.
So tomorrow I will go out of my comfort one.
Tomorrow I will see my husband and I will say, “Hi Handsome.”
Just because.
I bet it will make him feel pretty good.
And in addition to raising healthy, happy and productive children,
that’s pretty much the only thing I want to do.
Marcy says
I’m a relatively new follower but I love your blog. I think this post rings true for a lot of people. It can be so difficult to get out of one’s comfort zone in terms of emotional expression. You are definitely not the only one out there! I work in the field of psychology and I think your therapist provided a good suggestion about basically doing something that will make you uncomfortable. I bet you will surprise yourself too.
Laura says
That’s awesome! I am going to do the same. I spend so much time thinking about what’s wrong with my life that I sometimes forget just how much is so right!
Donna says
Wonderful blog post!! Go for it, and keep it up!! You’re probably doing a lot better than you think. I wish you well and have a wonderful summer with your family!!