This morning I brought the kids to swim practice at the town beach.
The town beach is on a lake, and the parking lot is across the street.
There is a big crosswalk and a two-way stop sign for traffic on the road. People know and expect to have to wait a while at that stop sign, especially when there are families with little kids who take forever to walk anywhere.
Today we were running late, and I told Number 3, 4, and 5 to go ahead and go to the beach while I got Number 6 and 7 ready to go and unloaded the stuff out of the back of the car.
I’ve got some stuff going on here that has me preoccupied, and while I was getting the bag and beach chairs out of the back of the car, Number 6 and 7 ran to the crosswalk and crossed the street.
I’ll be honest. I had no idea they were even gone. They know they are supposed to wait for me, but I have also been letting them go a little bit ahead of me to practice crossing the road on their own.
So as I’m walking across the parking lot toward the crosswalk and I realize that Number 6 and 7 had made it safely across on their own, a woman driving through the crosswalk slows down, cranes her head across the interior of her car, and wags her finger at me.
A woman gave me the fucking finger wag.
It must be nice.
It must be nice to never be preoccupied.
It must be nice to never lose track of your children for even an instant.
It must be nice to have kids who have never ever chosen to not follow the directions.
It must be nice to never fuck up.
It must be nice to have achieved that level of perfection.
It must be a really nice view you have up there on your high horse.
It must be nice to know that you are faultless and therefore can wag your finger at all of us moms who aren’t.
Yeah. All of that must be nice.
But what would really be nice, Finger-Wagging-Lady, would be if maybe, just maybe, you showed a little compassion for a frazzled mom rather than a whole shitload of judgment.
You seem to have forgotten that we moms are all in this together.
And really, the more I think about it, I should be the one wagging my finger at you.