On Mother’s Day, Facebook is flooded with articles of What Moms Really Want For Mother’s Day.
For most of us, it’s nothing major. It’s a day where we don’t have to take care of anyone else. Where we can sleep and have some alone time.
An opportunity to recharge.
But for many of us, it’s simply an appreciation for what we do every day.
My friend’s husband wrote this message on her Facebook timeline today:
Happy Mother’s Day to the glue to our family! The lady that makes it all happen!
Oh, yes. YES, YES, YES!!!
And this isn’t to say that husbands don’t do a lot or that they aren’t an integral part of the family machine.
But boy that would be nice to hear.
Because moms get shit done. And they get it done with efficiency, forethought, and an attention to detail.
They perform some seriously impressive logistical gymnastics.
They keep things running smoothly when all hell breaks loose.
If it’s lost, if it’s broken, if it’s due in twelve hours, if it’s impossible, moms find a way to make it happen.
Even when they are sick.
And so, Moms, I’m putting this out there to you.
On this Mother’s Day, don’t wait for your family to give you the perfect gift.
Give it to yourself.
Give yourself the gift of self care.
Because you are the glue.
And when the glue breaks down, then the family falls apart. And then you’re all fucked.
In the long term, take care of your body. Break a sweat every day.
Make time to rest. Get enough sleep. Sleep is the zamboni for your brain.
Invest time in finding a person (or people) you completely trust to spend time with your children. Because there’s no greater stress than feeling like you are the only one who can take care of them.
Find something that makes you happy. Really happy. And then do it. Regularly. Just because you have kids doesn’t mean you don’t get (or need) to have fun anymore.
Ask for help when you need it. We all need help sometimes!
Spend time with your friends.
In the short term, if you like having fresh flowers, don’t wait for someone to get them for you… get them for yourself. Book yourself a massage. Take the damn day off. Schedule a man-pedi. Go to the movies. Book a weekend at a hotel. Whatever gift you’d really like, get it!
You’ve earned it!
Sure, it would be nice if someone did this for us. But that’s not always how it pans out.
This Mother’s Day, don’t wait for your husband or your children or anyone else to do this for you.
Acknowledge and appreciate yourself.
You deserve it.
And just in case no one else has told you today, Happy Mother’s Day to the glue in your family!